“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Okay, first off, I have the flu. Been in bed most of the day. Haven't been this sick since I thought I had ebola, ironically like 5 years ago on Christmas, when I lost like 15 pounds from not eating.

Anyway, so we all go over my mom's house. So, we all get there, exchange gifts, give my mom her gifts, my sister her gifts, as my sister's dad is coming through the door, my sister's dog, a **** tsu mutt, gets lose and just runs down the street. hell breaks lose, I'm sick i'm like fuuuuck that, you guys are on your own. So; my sisters dad goes chasing the dog, who already has a broken shoulder, falls on his shoulder, gets hurt again. So, my mom tears into my sister, for i don't know what. She didn't see the dog, the dog is just like 7 pounds for crying out loud.

I wasn't going to eat. Made a plate. Mind you, I'm a ****ing grown man. I have not lived with my mom since I was what.. 18 years old? I had not eaten anything since yesterday afternoon, i thouht I would try to eat something, so I get my plate out and try to warm it up, so my mom says "when you eat, you need to eat on a newspaper so that you don't waste crumbs, I always have to clean up after you".. i'm like mom, that was a ****ing decade ago. lol, when you sold my ****iing bed because you were trying to kick me out the house and wanted me to catch the hint so I had to eat on the floor. I'm 27 years old with my own damn house, I know how to clean up after myself. And who tells a ****ing grown man, to eat on a newspaper? And even so, who the hell is perfect? who doesn't waste something from time to time when they eat. it was just a ****ing stupid statement made for no reason than to try to, **** i don't even know. I was so pissed off I just grabed my plate and just went to back to where we are staying.

And you know what lol, as I was driving home, I realized, that's what every last man who she has dated in her adult life has done, grabbed their plate and went home. NO grown man is going to put up with that **** regardless of how much money you make. You can't live up to her expectations. When I was 18 it was go to college. Then it was get a job. Then when I made some money it was, go back to church. I started going back to church (on my own, had nothing to do with her) and it was, why don't you bring your son around more. I bring my son around more, it's why did you have to move all the way to California, what's wrong with Arkansas (What the **** is RIGHT with Arkansas lol) as well as I don't see why you don't date inside your race.. and wonders why I don't bring my family around when you insult my future wife to my face. She has more class in her finger than my mom has in her whole body. All the **** she has given me, and her indirectly and sometimes even directly, it was her, who basically made us come back here earlier this year to visit my grandmother before she died, because i honestly did not give a damn. She respects her because she's my mom, i know she doesn't care for her, who would after she in front of 20 people asks you why you had to have a baby with a white woman, but she has never been nothing but respectful to her, but if she cursed her out, I wouldn't say 2 words to her, because she has put up with alot of **** from my mom. it's just never enough. You can't please her, no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, she will find some **** to gripe about, to ***** and complain about and even worse, not realizing the glaring character flaws that she has and not realizing that, as we say here, the common demonator between all my problems and me is me. I went half way across the country to get away from the woman lol. Every man she has ever dated, including her last husband, got out like a bat out of hell. Yet she refuses to see that she is just too overbearing. she doesn't accept people for who they are and doesn't understand, or want to understand that not everyone is always going to od what she wants when she wants them to.

Then what really burns me in the wrong way she uses, god in the wrong context. she will justify it all and say "god just hasn't brought the right man yet" or something to that line.

Not only that, she has no problem asking for help when she wants something. I saved her like 10 grand last week she bought a buick lacrosse and I found one that was a used 010 out of state that had everything she wanted for 9 grand less than what she was going to pay for it here. Not a thank you, no nothing.

And it brings me back to the overall point... a single 45 year old woman.. you know, i dont' think it's so much, genetics, tits sagging, old age.. why they get overlooked to date younger women.

AS I think about it, every last one of her relationshiops have ended with her getting cheated on, that I know of. My dad, her a few long time men who she dated when I was growing up, her last husband. same patten, find for 1-2 years, they get tired of it, and move on.

I am starting to think, damnit unles you JUST got divorced or widowed, if you are a 45 year old woman, there is a reason you are 45 and single. it's my flesh and blood and i can't stand the woman, she doesn't have a chance with a regular man until she has a serious attitude adjustment.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Wow bro. Today was Christmas and I just had the best day ever. I spent the day cooking, giving out gifts and just enjoying a wonderful day with family and friends. I have the flu too and its the worst I've had in at least a decade. But I hid the fact I wasn't felling so good and tried to enjoy these holidays the best I could. My family and friends are so supportive I just really wanted to show them as best I could that I appreciate them.

One is always faced with potential arguments at these family get togethers. Your Mom is so happy to see you, your fiance and son but I guess its just so hard for her to not revert back to old patterns. What I do with family is I try and steer the convo elsewhere or I join another or I just neg em till they shut up (all in jest). There is just no point in having someone ruin your day because they knew how to push your buttons years back.

We get so hung up on being super alpha when in fact non of us really are. Or we get caught up in thinking about everything from an alpha perspective. But I think sometimes we could just use a little tolerance and understanding. Maybe overlook some the of the button pushing and just say "it is what it is" and go on enjoying your time with family.

Merry Christmas Mature Men
 

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that woman can kiss my black ass. I'm done with her and her ****. And yes I know that's the character flaw in me, I don't give a **** at this point and truth be told, today was the first day a LONG time that the thought of a little coke even crossed my mind. In some years, and that' even with seeing the **** a few times. That woman is a ****ing trigger for me, always has been. That is when I left and when I explained to my girl why she didn't ask any questions. first time she heard me ever say that. My life is just better without her in it. **** being tolerant. I'm sick and tired of wondering what her deal is going to be this time or hoping she doesn't insult my fiancee or whatever the case may be and she damn sure is not going to drive me back to basing again.

everyone doesn't have a family like you see in it's a wonderful life. my faimlyt is ****ed up. I know it's ****ed up, and i don't know how i turned out how I turned out, but I did. I try to do the "right thing" but at some point you have to cut your losses to keep your own head afloat regardless of how it makes you look. things were going great, i love watching my son open his pesents, got an ipad from my girl, been wanting one for a while and i hinted at her that's what i wanted, i could have bought it mylef but still you have to let people do things for you from time to time, got some additional clothes that shebought for me, but watching my son open his presents, that just made my day. it's funny i have more fun watching him open presents than i ever got getting presents myself. spoil the **** out of that little dude, spent a good 2 hours opening presents just for him lol. I got him one of those.. really really nice water guns and he has been hiding and just spraying people all day, that **** cracks me up. But all that **** ends when you step in my mom's house. everything is about her, what she wants, when she wants it,w hy she can't get what she want, and so on, i can only take so much.
 

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bb,

Remember, she is simply triggering an automatic response in you, hence the temptation for coke. You're bigger than that. From what I can see and piece together from your posts, you have made great strides in your life and overcome a lot. This is just a test for you.

I know how hard it is when your mother triggers bad memories and bad feelings about yourself. I have been through that in my life. I know that you know you need to detach yourself from the emotion of it and remember that YOU have a higher awareness than she does. You have acheived discernment, while she is stuck in her emotions and behaviors. YOU are not. You have risen above that. Detach as a man of understanding and discernment. Even pity her for being so stuck.

For most of my life, my relationship with my mother was terrible. She was rageful and unpredicatble. She would be somewhat loving one minute, and then absolutely full of rage the next.

As an adult, there was massive friction between us and I felt a lot of negative emotions toward her. But she has completely changed over the years. She has mellowed out, and now I am her "little boy". She tells me she loves me (that L word was never uttered once in my childhood) and that she misses me. She lives in a different state. I never would have predicted in a million years that our relationship would ever change so drastically. It seemed utterly impossible.

I tell you that in order to remind you that there is hope for your mom and for your relationship. Time and experience has a way of softening a woman's heart toward her son. Now I know that my mom regrets a lot of her harshness. It may be that as time goes on, the same will happen to her.

In the meantime, YOU, backbreaker, have been blessed with awareness and understanding, so it is possible for you to detach yourself from the emotion and to realize that she cannot escape her behavior patterns yet. Don't give her the right to invade your inner sanctum. You are above her manipulations and above the situation, and are therefore victorious over the situation. SHe may very well change over time as my mom did, and it you demonstrate that shift in yourself from reactive to detached, you just may be a part of her healing process.
 
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