"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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University may kick me out harshly, need your advice please!

Indigo7

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Hey guys,

I got to a UK university and the first year don't count towards the degree and I only need 40% to pass each module. At my university, they allow students to retake up to 4 failed exams in the following September and carry on and continue their degree.

My situation is I got into university in Oct 2010 and in my first year I failed 8 out of 12 modules.

So I spent this year retaking these modules (Oct 2011-May 2012). I got my results and I found out I failed 5 out of 8 modules, where 4 of them I should've passed. They are considering me to leave the university.

Options are:

1) Redo the whole year again for the third time-waste of time and pointless, since I know what to do and just made time/few errors in exams. I know the whole content.
2) Leave the degree-They are strongly considering.
3) Retake these exams in September-Which I hope to do!

I was a sufferor of delayed speech, which has recently healed. But this is only 10% of what they will take into account, since my exams were written.

Exam 1: I passed my coursework and only need 35% in the exam to pass and I managed to mess up a few calulations which proved my downfall.
Exam 2: I got 70% in the coursework and I only needed about 20% in the real exam to pass and this is an open book exam. I managed to take a long time figuring out a question and I got 18% in total. So I failed this exam by time.
Exam 3: I know the whole content and I took my time in the exam, by the time I went to do regression analysis which is my favourite, the time was over and I lost 30 marks. WHICH I SHOULD'VE PASSED!
Exam 4: I failed the exam by 2%. The last question I messed up the whole question, so I had to scribble it out and re-do the whole question, but the TIME FINSHED and I lost 25 easy marks. I SHOULD'VE PASSED!
Exam 5: Hands down I found it hard and miss the pass mark by 20%.

So there you go, I've got good coureswork (this is a mini-exam) so it shows the ability I can do it. HOWEVER, I failed 2 easy exams due scribbing out and taking time in answers and in the other 2, messing up calculation, despite getting top coursework marks.

I KNOW 2 OTHER people who have failed 4 out of 6 exams in their second attempt and they have got the chance to retake these exams in September, pass and progress onto their second year. And they won't allow me to do this!

HOWEVER, I have a hearing in 2 weeks where I can fight for my case and maybe convince them to allow me to retake these exams in september and progress into my second year.

THEY WILL SAY:

1) Why should we give you a third chance when you've failed on your second attempt? (as stated given 2 other people a chance to retake exams on their second attempt when they have failed 4 exams, I just failed one more!)
2) How will you go on and gain good marks in your degree? (more drive and determination)
3) How can you pass 5 modules and then go on to your second year?

What Can I say to convince them to allow me to retake these exams in September and then go on to get my degree? I was suffering from delayed speech which just healed now and my home life was difficult before (sufficient evidence can be provided) and I only made a few errors in the exams.

Much love and appreciation,
Indigo
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt

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You sound like me in law school.

The review board will mostly want to know what is different this time. They will want to hear about changes in your circumstances now that were not there before, basically that you got through whatever your problem was. It could be any sort of personal problem like divorce or illness/death in the family.

And I won't tell you to do this, but know it is an option. You can always go get "certified" as having a learning disability like ADHD. I could have done it, but I just lost interest:D . I knew a lot of kids who only got through law school because they got certified as being disabled. The university gave them time and a half on exams - these are tests for which your grade is your rank against everyone else. They also got private rooms for taking the test. So many people got ADD certified that they ran out of the private rooms, though. Going that route gives the liberal academic people a way to feel good about letting you back in, because you were just a poor handicapped soul who would have otherwise been discriminated against because of your handicap. :rolleyes:
 

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Thanks BibleBelt,

I've edited my post and I forgot to mention I suffered from delayed speech (and I got sufficient evidence of this too).

Lets hope this is a viable case.
 

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Was your delayed speech considered a "learning disability?"

I don't see why they would deny you if your delayed speech truly was the reason for your failing.
 

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Not really. Since most of the exams involving writing. However, it did dampen my self-esteem, self-confidence and the ability to fit in.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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