Unhappy with my date "performance".

[CMNILS87]

Hey peeps, date last night with. Gorgeous HB8. A lot of things in common. Super sexy body, works out everyday and is toned. And she really opened up and started to act goofy after a bit. We mini golfed and got a drink afterwards and I dropped her off. Escalated, teased, Kiss closed, and fooled around in my truck, tried to escalate to her place for a bit and the ASD was a little too high. I picked her up and put her against her car. Probably shouldn't have been so aggressive, but w/e. Even with all that, I feel like my performance purveying myself as s person was just subpar as to who I am. I wasn't nervous, but opening up about my life was just hard. I wanted to keep it lighthearted and fun and definitely did. Does anyone feel this sometimes? Great time, but feel they could've had more fun?

I could be just over analyzing and slipping back to slight anger phase after reading redpill Reddit a lot.

 

[Poon King]

You did everything right.

Take the p*ssy off the pedestal. If you had "opened up" on your first date I would of called you a faggot. Don't open up to any woman until she has sex with you.

Remember: F*ck first and analyze later. Don't analyze women until after you sleep with them. Sex is when you know a woman means business. Until then, stay cool and emotionally indifferent. This is for YOUR benefit.

Again. You did everything right.

 

[marmel75]

I don't think there was anything wrong with what happened...

Obviously you wanted to Fvck her but that won't always happen on a first date...go for it again on date 2

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Sounds like the date went well. What do you feel you need to improve on?

I was wondering how you guys feel about escalating, but stopping the escalation to display power? Or she might just think you're a faggot lol

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Great time, but feel they could've had more fun?

This is the absolute BEST way to end anything, IMO. (I did pretty good, but I think I could do better.)

Why?

Because it will foster a mindset of always being able to improve. Of wanting to do better next time.

So just figure out what other good things you can try next time.

 

[Krueg]

Only one way to know; if she accepts a second date...

 

[CMNILS87]

She sent what I feel like was a nuclear test at me during the drinking portion that I shut down. She asked "do you feel like you're doing me a favor by taking me out?" I replied, " I have limited precious free time and when I do choose to take a girl it's because I want to get to know her a little better" and I cut it off. Backstory, she blew up my social media and wanted to meet, she found me on match and I hadn't been on it in 2-3 months. I figured she was that thirsty, she was husband hunting. I think she put herself out there and I was a little stand-offish and aloof and that scared her so out came the nuke. That question made me think afterwards how I was possibly purveying my character

You kept it lighthearted, had fun, escalated well and expressed dominance. That is a great first date!

She has been thinking about you since. She is already wondering when she gets to see you again. When she reaches out, be prepared. No extended chit chat. Set up a date/time/place. Let her know you look forward to seeing her then, and then disconnect back into your priorities. Let her be. Let her anticipation percolate and build, until she sees you again.

 

[CMNILS87]

There was a lot of banter in between questioning back and forth. So it wasn't really a superfluous conversation the whole time. Broken line of questioning here and there and pick it back up 5 minutes later.

Sounds like the date went well. What do you feel you need to improve on?

I was wondering how you guys feel about escalating, but stopping the escalation to display power? Or she might just think you're a faggot lol

 

[CMNILS87]

Thanks LYD.

To me, she was trying to asses her value, in your eyes. Her question came from her own insecurity.

 

[CMNILS87]

UPDATE: reached out after 3 days and she thought I wasn't interested. I told it takes me time to get back to people. She felt i was a bit aggressive in the truck and it didn't turn out how she wanted. She loved kissing me and such. But the aggressiveness turned her off.

I took that as "too aggressive"="not comfortable enough" or not enough reassurance in my game. There was a slight Jab text at the end stating "thanks for taking some of your slim free time to take me out", which I talked about on the date.

 

[yuppaz]

You kept it lighthearted, had fun, escalated well and expressed dominance. That is a great first date!

She has been thinking about you since. She is already wondering when she gets to see you again. When she reaches out, be prepared. No extended chit chat. Set up a date/time/place. Let her know you look forward to seeing her then, and then disconnect back into your priorities. Let her be. Let her anticipation percolate and build, until she sees you again.

Don'the lie, you are Corey Wayne..... haha

 

[yuppaz]

UPDATE: reached out after 3 days and she thought I wasn't interested. I told it takes me time to get back to people. She felt i was a bit aggressive in the truck and it didn't turn out how she wanted. She loved kissing me and such. But the aggressiveness turned her off.

I took that as "too aggressive"="not comfortable enough" or not enough reassurance in my game. There was a slight Jab text at the end stating "thanks for taking some of your slim free time to take me out", which I talked about on the date.

Bro I would just ignore all the info in the text and focus on the fact she reached out. Just keep it short and simple and ask her out again.... she reached out because she wants you to ask her out

 

[EyeBRollin]

My take:

There's a difference between aggressiveness and assertiveness. You need to relax. Why are you in such a rush to get in the panties? If you chill the **** out, wait for her to initiate touching you, you'll get the clothes off by the 3rd date. Women are like cats. You have to let them get comfortable first.