Asking people if they think you are humble is never a good thing. If you were truly humble the thought would not have even crossed your mind. As for peoples response, asking an awkward question like that would naturally lead to a white lie answer.crossboss said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Unfriendliness
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I am a little German.
I am half-white, mixed white. I am German, Irish, and Danish.Schwank said:Crossboss, what country do you hail from? Are you by any chance a native German? I'm just curious because you use commas to introduce every subordinate clause.
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kingsam
Master Don Juan
having seen ur profile pic (and being bluntly honest)
id say your reality and every one else's reality may not exactly be matching up.....
id say your reality and every one else's reality may not exactly be matching up.....
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I agree, to some extent, a lot of the experts in the pick-up world, says looks have very little to do with your success, and say that you don't need looks or money, to get a girl.styleman said:It's true, not to many people really care what you look like, if you share a connection its way more likely that you can get into convo together..
kingsam
Master Don Juan
** im being honest and construdctive**crossboss said:Does my profile picture, show that I am not as good looking, or as I think? Or do I look arrogant?
coz ur smiling you look friendly and nice
but you are average looking and look a bit "cuddly" i.e. could lose a few pounds (which would also sharpen your jawline out a bit - defo making your face a little more classically 'attractive')
thats my opinion make of it what you want
(almost all guys are "average" coz its soo subjective to individual women's tastes, only maybe 5% are amazing looking, and 5% are really really ugly)
Looks and money will help.crossboss said:I agree, to some extent, a lot of the experts in the pick-up world, says looks have very little to do with your success, and say that you don't need looks or money, to get a girl.
People aren't going to want to start chatting to you just because you're rich and good looking though. Whilst, "I'm here with your friend" is hardly going to get you the cold shoulder!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks
Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions, on my looks. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions, on my looks. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
Men can't really judge men...crossboss said:Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
But (and I mean this in a kind way) you're not in the best of shape.
Do you usually talk about yourself as much as you are here? If so, stop. That would help ALOT. Nothing gets you more friends than being a good listener.
And judging by your pic you look average. If you walk around thinking you are amazing looking you might be acting like you think as much. And people will find that arrogant especially when, unfortunately, it's just not true.
"Talk less listen more." Always sage advice.
And judging by your pic you look average. If you walk around thinking you are amazing looking you might be acting like you think as much. And people will find that arrogant especially when, unfortunately, it's just not true.
"Talk less listen more." Always sage advice.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
but if you got down the gym did it all properly, so low body fat, and good physique, got some good looking clothes, etc...
added to an approachable attitude and a good inner core of confidence (and good "Game") you will do well
added to an approachable attitude and a good inner core of confidence (and good "Game") you will do well
falconslax89
Senior Don Juan
he doesnt mean are you of german ancestry. he means are you GERMAN..as in live there, speak it.. since you dont use your commas correctly.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Cinamon & King sam are spot on. *rep for you both.
to OP: We all can use improvement. that being said... lose 15 lbs and it will also chisel out your jawline/face. You have the framework already. not only will you look even better than you are, but your confidence will grow and you will get more women.
to OP: We all can use improvement. that being said... lose 15 lbs and it will also chisel out your jawline/face. You have the framework already. not only will you look even better than you are, but your confidence will grow and you will get more women.