Asking people if they think you are humble is never a good thing. If you were truly humble the thought would not have even crossed your mind. As for peoples response, asking an awkward question like that would naturally lead to a white lie answer.crossboss said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Unfriendliness
- Thread starter crossboss
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I am a little German.
I am half-white, mixed white. I am German, Irish, and Danish.Schwank said:Crossboss, what country do you hail from? Are you by any chance a native German? I'm just curious because you use commas to introduce every subordinate clause.
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kingsam
Master Don Juan
having seen ur profile pic (and being bluntly honest)
id say your reality and every one else's reality may not exactly be matching up.....
id say your reality and every one else's reality may not exactly be matching up.....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree, to some extent, a lot of the experts in the pick-up world, says looks have very little to do with your success, and say that you don't need looks or money, to get a girl.styleman said:It's true, not to many people really care what you look like, if you share a connection its way more likely that you can get into convo together..
kingsam
Master Don Juan
** im being honest and construdctive**crossboss said:Does my profile picture, show that I am not as good looking, or as I think? Or do I look arrogant?
coz ur smiling you look friendly and nice
but you are average looking and look a bit "cuddly" i.e. could lose a few pounds (which would also sharpen your jawline out a bit - defo making your face a little more classically 'attractive')
thats my opinion make of it what you want
(almost all guys are "average" coz its soo subjective to individual women's tastes, only maybe 5% are amazing looking, and 5% are really really ugly)
Looks and money will help.crossboss said:I agree, to some extent, a lot of the experts in the pick-up world, says looks have very little to do with your success, and say that you don't need looks or money, to get a girl.
People aren't going to want to start chatting to you just because you're rich and good looking though. Whilst, "I'm here with your friend" is hardly going to get you the cold shoulder!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thanks
Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions, on my looks. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions, on my looks. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
Men can't really judge men...crossboss said:Well, that clear's it up. Hopefully, I can get a couple of other opinions. However, if what you say is true, then the reaction I get from people, is probably normal. The people, who say I look, good, well, they are white lies.
But (and I mean this in a kind way) you're not in the best of shape.
Do you usually talk about yourself as much as you are here? If so, stop. That would help ALOT. Nothing gets you more friends than being a good listener.
And judging by your pic you look average. If you walk around thinking you are amazing looking you might be acting like you think as much. And people will find that arrogant especially when, unfortunately, it's just not true.
"Talk less listen more." Always sage advice.
And judging by your pic you look average. If you walk around thinking you are amazing looking you might be acting like you think as much. And people will find that arrogant especially when, unfortunately, it's just not true.
"Talk less listen more." Always sage advice.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
but if you got down the gym did it all properly, so low body fat, and good physique, got some good looking clothes, etc...
added to an approachable attitude and a good inner core of confidence (and good "Game") you will do well
added to an approachable attitude and a good inner core of confidence (and good "Game") you will do well
falconslax89
Senior Don Juan
he doesnt mean are you of german ancestry. he means are you GERMAN..as in live there, speak it.. since you dont use your commas correctly.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Cinamon & King sam are spot on. *rep for you both.
to OP: We all can use improvement. that being said... lose 15 lbs and it will also chisel out your jawline/face. You have the framework already. not only will you look even better than you are, but your confidence will grow and you will get more women.
to OP: We all can use improvement. that being said... lose 15 lbs and it will also chisel out your jawline/face. You have the framework already. not only will you look even better than you are, but your confidence will grow and you will get more women.