My first year at uni approaches and things are complicated. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for like 7months. She is younger than me so she will be at school next year. That's not really the problem because we will still be living near each other and can see her all I want. But in recent weeks I have felt something building between me and her friend Mary (fake name). Me and her friend have hated each other for like a year but over the past months we have got on well. One of my friends says that ''Opposites Attract'' which I think is kind of strange, me and mary are kind of different anyway. She goes for bad boys (idiots) which im not, she likes r'n;b and rap and I well........ don't mind it but prefer other types. Oh and another thing.....I’m white and she is Indian. Not a problem for me but she has maintained that white guys are not for her. My current girlfriend is also Indian but more open minded. Recently though things have been slowing getting more friendly between me and mary and every time I say something she seems to laugh all the time. I feel a lot more comfortable in her presence and just want to hold her which might sound weird. I just always think back to those times we hated each other and I think why is this happening? For some reason I stayed with her when we got our exam results and actually told my friends to go on ahead. it all felt very natural and as I could fell her pain from her results she kept wanting a hug from my girlfriend but my girl was sleeping a hangover off. I didn't offer and I could see she was upset. A few days later she rang up my girlfriend and kept talking about me saying ''how cute'' I was and ''sweet'' etc......... but then she said ’’if only he was Indian’’ This angered my girl and she rang up showing her concerns asking me if ''I was attracted to her''? The this last Thursday things erupted when my girlfriend hit me and accused me of looking at her constantly. I suppose I’m guilty considering what she was wearing that day. She looked great!! I never used to be attracted to her because I just saw her as fat. That night we all went out to a night club which I thought was not a good idea. For some reason I ended up holding her hand as my girl went missing in the club, they were both drunk so anything could happen. My girl wondered off like an idiot so I was left with mary who had just finished kissing some random guy. We just held hands and to be honest I couldn't tell you who grabbed who's hand. It felt erotic?????? for god's sake me and my girl have had some hot sex. Why would I get turned on by it?? I didn't want to let go but I did. Then I turned round as she tapped me on the shoulder and then she hugged me......then there was this pause for about 3-4 seconds as we moved apart....it was just looking into the eyes stuff. It was really nice but I my girl was missing. I don't know what is gunna happen now? does she like me? doubt it because she was drunk!! she does talk about me allot though. I would like to know what you guys think and whether she likes me? I’m rubbish at working out what girls want.
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I only read the couple first sentences and the last sentence.
Figure that out and go for what you want. Make no regrets but also have a good heart. Trying to hook up with your gf's friend could just be lust.
Search your heart.....
The whole story can be summed up by asking yourself a question. Unstead of what a girl might want, what do YOU want.
Figure that out and go for what you want. Make no regrets but also have a good heart. Trying to hook up with your gf's friend could just be lust.
Search your heart.....
I have been thinking comnstantly for the last week. I think i'm scared of finding out what would happen because of the hate that we had for a long time. It wasn't pleasant being around her at times but i have always liked something about her.
