"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Uneven Energy Levels

anonymous12345

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I’ve since youth had the problem of exerting myself to burnout-ish states. That state follows some well-documented pattern of first restlessness and stress, followed by sincere tiredness (and hence restitution possible), if done properly.

The problem is this is a no go. I can’t have this jerky modus operandi. I want stable, solid productive energy followed by the appropriate rest. Not sprint and fall.

One problem here that I basically load myself too hard, I think. I left gym at 23 yesterday evening for instance, and my work and leisure are both demanding. But resting requires balls. To essentially be lazy, and in a sense not care about the things that do need attention.

A concept that follows me is “your surface vs. your kernel.” You don’t want to perform using some questionable surface that only holds temporarily, you want to rest on your kernel much larger periods of the time. One way is of course to train up the skill to- or otherwise redefine what is undemanding for you.

But things still need to be done. Many people, such as leaders and moms (?), basically don’t rest or something. I don’t believe in resting essentially every evening and large parts of the weekend, there gotta be more energy than that. Question is how.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When tired, sleep. When hungry, eat.
 

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No clue what you are talking about. But if you think more is better at the gym that's your problem most likely.

The body doesn't work the way you want or think it should. Most of the good things happen at rest while you sleep.

If you are trading sleep for working out, perhaps you need to rethink that. It's a bad decision.
 
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