"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Uneven Energy Levels

anonymous12345

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I’ve since youth had the problem of exerting myself to burnout-ish states. That state follows some well-documented pattern of first restlessness and stress, followed by sincere tiredness (and hence restitution possible), if done properly.

The problem is this is a no go. I can’t have this jerky modus operandi. I want stable, solid productive energy followed by the appropriate rest. Not sprint and fall.

One problem here that I basically load myself too hard, I think. I left gym at 23 yesterday evening for instance, and my work and leisure are both demanding. But resting requires balls. To essentially be lazy, and in a sense not care about the things that do need attention.

A concept that follows me is “your surface vs. your kernel.” You don’t want to perform using some questionable surface that only holds temporarily, you want to rest on your kernel much larger periods of the time. One way is of course to train up the skill to- or otherwise redefine what is undemanding for you.

But things still need to be done. Many people, such as leaders and moms (?), basically don’t rest or something. I don’t believe in resting essentially every evening and large parts of the weekend, there gotta be more energy than that. Question is how.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FlexpertHamilton

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When tired, sleep. When hungry, eat.
 

BackInTheGame78

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No clue what you are talking about. But if you think more is better at the gym that's your problem most likely.

The body doesn't work the way you want or think it should. Most of the good things happen at rest while you sleep.

If you are trading sleep for working out, perhaps you need to rethink that. It's a bad decision.
 
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