"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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understanding neediness.

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Im not sure how all this can be sinking in at the rate you're going here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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reset said:
Im not sure how all this can be sinking in at the rate you're going here.
He's like a speeding locomotive asking question like a little kid, but I admire his tenacity.
 

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OK the reason neediness is a turn off for women is because women are selfish. They're not interested in your needs only they're own. But also the reason it is a turn off is because it subcommunicates that you don't have other options with women. Women simply desire what other girls want. It ties in with jealousy, and women wanting a challenge (if something is harder to get it must be valuable) and not wanting what they know they can have (if you are needy for them, then they know they have you, so they no longer want you). Some of the women in this thread were confusing meediness with negativity and pessimism. Did I mention it was also because women are selfish and self-centered?
 

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ketostix said:
OK the reason neediness is a turn off for women is because women are selfish. They're not interested in your needs only they're own. But also the reason it is a turn off is because it subcommunicates that you don't have other options with women. Women simply desire what other girls want. It ties in with jealousy, and women wanting a challenge (if something is harder to get it must be valuable) and not wanting what they know they can have (if you are needy for them, then they know they have you, so they no longer want you). Some of the women in this thread were confusing meediness with negativity and pessimism. Did I mention it was also because women are selfish and self-centered?
but she wanted to be exclusive so i let the other girls go. What am i supposed to do when i get married? have side til to keep in check? she'll just pull the same move and then the relationship is in the ****ter again.
 

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sosilky said:
but she wanted to be exclusive so i let the other girls go. What am i supposed to do when i get married? have side til to keep in check? she'll just pull the same move and then the relationship is in the ****ter again.
Well there's no guarantees in life, Just ways to improve your odds and to accept the possible outcomes. If you do everything right then the odds that she won't cheat are probably a little better than 50%.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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