Understanding Class and Taste

[TheMonkeyKing]

Taste is understanding that different people are stimulated by and want for different things; class is being able to accommodate those differences.

 

[Urbanyst]

You took an odd stance in this thread.

How so?

A "gentleman" in the context the OP wants to talk about is a cartoon character.

The dictionary definition is basically an educated male over 18 with good manners. There is no reason to make a thread about the dictionary definition of a gentleman. Its pretty cut and dry.

 

[user43770]

How so?

A "gentleman" in the context the OP wants to talk about is a cartoon character.

The dictionary definition is basically an educated male over 18 with good manners. There is no reason to make a thread about the dictionary definition of a gentleman. Its pretty cut and dry.

I don't think you're giving the lady enough credit. The original post also asked about class, taste and if being a gentleman is outdated in the sexual marketplace.

I wouldn't compare a gentleman to the easter bunny i.e. I believe it's a real thing. Having said that, I also don't think being overly well-mannered will get you laid in today's society.

 

[fastlife]

Ok, class & taste...I was raised to be a gentleman; manners are reflexive to me; and it's definitely a quality that has its pros & cons.

Pros:

• Generally thought of highly by older women & men in general.
• Gives you an air of importance that can cause people to treat you with more priority than they might otherwise.
• Super useful in the workplace; again, it makes you seem like you are used to a more elevated position.
• Puts people at ease (in certain contexts/demographics) & engenders trust (again, in certain contexts/demographics).
• Often puts you in a leadership position with women (as in, leveraging your body to move her through a room considerately, etc.).
• Can make you seem mysterious--since class tends to prioritize

Cons:

• Much less easy/congruent to sexualize interactions; impudence & crassness are super useful tools for generating sexual attraction & opening up topics of convo that a gentlemen would only ever allude to.
• Tends to paint you in the 'provider zone' & more likely to trigger ASD. You become a guy women can envision taking home to meet her parents, etc. and won't want to risk sleeping with you too soon or possibly sleeping with you at all.
• Can make you seem stiff & stifled in certain contexts & environments. Like a rave, for instance, or a blue-collar family BBQ.
• Causes women to feel more self-conscious around you (and while it's good in that it often gets her qualifying herself to you, it also causes her to suppress a lot of the more--primal--aspects of her personality.
• Any expectation of meeting a girl with similar level of 'class' is unlikely, unrealistic and more likely to engender bitterness than if you play more of the fvckboy, bang slvts & live on your own terms kind of vibe.

So I think it is a quality worth cultivating; certain girls--definitely those with good relationships with their fathers & high self-esteem & from better backgrounds--will appreciate those qualities (though often, even with these girls, you'll get more mileage introducing them post-sex than pre-sex). You get more flexibility socially & have contrast work more in your favor from being more of a cad with a sprinkling of class than you would from being a gentleman who still has sexual desires. The older the woman you're dealing with, the more effective predominantly gentlemanly behavior will be.

But if you're looking to climb, business-wise or socially, a measure of class & knowledge of etiquette is necessary at a certain point.

 

[BeExcellent]

Nice to see you @fastlife

 

[Urbanyst]

I don't think you're giving the lady enough credit. The original post also asked about class, taste and if being a gentleman is outdated in the sexual marketplace.

I wouldn't compare a gentleman to the easter bunny i.e. I believe it's a real thing. Having said that, I also don't think being overly well-mannered will get you laid in today's society.

I gave her credit for everything except the "gentleman" thing.

No its not a real thing. Real things are not open to interpretation. They simply exist.