TheMonkeyKing
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Taste is understanding that different people are stimulated by and want for different things; class is being able to accommodate those differences.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Understanding Class and Taste
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How so?
A "gentleman" in the context the OP wants to talk about is a cartoon character.
The dictionary definition is basically an educated male over 18 with good manners. There is no reason to make a thread about the dictionary definition of a gentleman. Its pretty cut and dry.
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I don't think you're giving the lady enough credit. The original post also asked about class, taste and if being a gentleman is outdated in the sexual marketplace.
I wouldn't compare a gentleman to the easter bunny i.e. I believe it's a real thing. Having said that, I also don't think being overly well-mannered will get you laid in today's society.
Ok, class & taste...I was raised to be a gentleman; manners are reflexive to me; and it's definitely a quality that has its pros & cons.
Pros:
But if you're looking to climb, business-wise or socially, a measure of class & knowledge of etiquette is necessary at a certain point.
Pros:
- Generally thought of highly by older women & men in general.
- Gives you an air of importance that can cause people to treat you with more priority than they might otherwise.
- Super useful in the workplace; again, it makes you seem like you are used to a more elevated position.
- Puts people at ease (in certain contexts/demographics) & engenders trust (again, in certain contexts/demographics).
- Often puts you in a leadership position with women (as in, leveraging your body to move her through a room considerately, etc.).
- Can make you seem mysterious--since class tends to prioritize
- Much less easy/congruent to sexualize interactions; impudence & crassness are super useful tools for generating sexual attraction & opening up topics of convo that a gentlemen would only ever allude to.
- Tends to paint you in the 'provider zone' & more likely to trigger ASD. You become a guy women can envision taking home to meet her parents, etc. and won't want to risk sleeping with you too soon or possibly sleeping with you at all.
- Can make you seem stiff & stifled in certain contexts & environments. Like a rave, for instance, or a blue-collar family BBQ.
- Causes women to feel more self-conscious around you (and while it's good in that it often gets her qualifying herself to you, it also causes her to suppress a lot of the more--primal--aspects of her personality.
- Any expectation of meeting a girl with similar level of 'class' is unlikely, unrealistic and more likely to engender bitterness than if you play more of the fvckboy, bang slvts & live on your own terms kind of vibe.
But if you're looking to climb, business-wise or socially, a measure of class & knowledge of etiquette is necessary at a certain point.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I gave her credit for everything except the "gentleman" thing.
No its not a real thing. Real things are not open to interpretation. They simply exist.