Understand This Trifecta With Women And You Will Win

[sazc]

I thought you had a man... Did you cash him in already?

OMG awhile ago. Good man, lots of great qualities, couldnt handle his inability to control his anger/emotions in public or private. I dont do emotional abuse.

 

[logicallefty]

OMG awhile ago. Good man, lots of great qualities, couldnt handle his inability to control his anger/emotions in public or private. I dont do emotional abuse.

oh ok Well you will have to post us a field report on your Bumble date.

 

[sazc]

oh ok Well you will have to post us a field report on your Bumble date.

lo thanks for the offer but, seriously, no one here wants to read my bumble date field report.

I do think sosausage is jealous that I also have a date with a man

 

[AttackFormation]

lo thanks for the offer but, seriously, no one here wants to read my bumble date field report.

We want to know.

I do think sosausage is jealous that I also have a date with a man

LOL

 

[sazc]

We want to know.

On first dates I drink water, inspect the teeth, ask questions, possibly hope for a connection ( if I'm feeling it I get more personable), offer to pay for half and always go home alone. Really, there's nothing ever really exciting to report....

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I thought you had a man... Did you cash him in already?

You mean "you already cashed him out?"

 

[zekko]

On first dates I drink water, inspect the teeth

There's the teeth again. lol. "Show up, inspect the teeth, go home". I remember I've had more than one first dates with girls that have asked to see my teeth. I thought it was kind of a bizarre request, like they were buying a horse or something.

 

[sazc]

There's the teeth again. lol. "Show up, inspect the teeth, go home". I remember I've had more than one first dates with girls that have asked to see my teeth. I thought it was kind of a bizarre request, like they were buying a horse or something.

Idk how it is on the other side of the fence, but dudes be letting their teeth "go", and they seem to think it doesn't matter.

A bright smile is attractive and good teeth say a lot about who you are, indicate your financial status, and silently speak as to how you care for yourself.

 

[zekko]

A bright smile is attractive and good teeth say a lot about who you are, indicate your financial status, and silently speak as to how you care for yourself.

Oh, I agree, it's a sign of good health and whatnot. I just thought it was odd that someone ask to look at your teeth, especially on a first date. Maybe that's an indication that they're on the fence about you lol. "If he has bad teeth, I'm outta here. If he has good teeth, I'll give him 10 more minutes".

I hadn't considered that it was an indication of your financial status, but you're right! But if you need straightening, that is usually done when you are in your teens, so maybe it's more of an indication of the financial status of your parents. Of course you can have it done later if you need to. Does that mean if you see a guy in his 30s with braces, it's a turn on, because they can afford to fix their teeth?

By the way, it seems to me that more women have smiles where they show all their teeth, much more common than with men. Is this something that they try to do to be attractive, or does it have to do with the shape of the female face, smaller jaw and such?

 

[logicallefty]

You mean "you already cashed him out?"

Exchanged him in the dating market for another guy. Whichever that is. IN, OUT. Tomato tomoto.

 

[sazc]

@zekko I don't actually ask to look, I just look while I am taking to them.

Bumble dude from a few days ago was from England originally, so maybe that's why his teeth were sub par. They were stained brown and all had noticeable spaces in between them. It wasn't a good look, not attractive to me.

If I see a guy past 30 who has braces, to me that says he cares enough about his smile to make it the best it can be. That is attractive. We're all aging, when i come to understand a man is challenging his age, fighting against it, versus giving up/giving in, that's sexy.

Nowadays most company sponsored medical plans in the U.S. have dental and some sort of orthodontic coverage. There's really no reason to not have a good smile. Invisalign is great if you don't want to do full metal.

Bumble dude from a few days ago was a professional. No reason why he shouldn't get his smile addressed.

On other fronts, he was married 3 times and had been cheated on in all the relationships, and talked unfavorably, a bit too much, about his ex.

Not my kind of guy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Exchanged him in the dating market for another guy. Whichever that is. IN, OUT. Tomato tomoto.

Cashed his money and success out and threw him out.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

There's the teeth again. lol. "Show up, inspect the teeth, go home". I remember I've had more than one first dates with girls that have asked to see my teeth. I thought it was kind of a bizarre request, like they were buying a horse or something.

I had one grab my hand and closely inspect my fingernails. I must have had the odd bite mark as I never saw her again... ha ha

 

[Spaz]

lo thanks for the offer but, seriously, no one here wants to read my bumble date field report.

I do think sosausage is jealous that I also have a date with a man

An obvious competition 4 him lol

Hang in there and stand ur ground when he starts b1tching at you lmao

 

[Spaz]

OMG awhile ago. Good man, lots of great qualities, couldnt handle his inability to control his anger/emotions in public or private. I dont do emotional abuse.

So hes a good man with lots of great qualities but he emotionally abused you?

Do tell.

We might learn something from this.

 

[zekko]

@zekko I don't actually ask to look, I just look while I am taking to them.

Understood, I wasn't saying you did, just that I've had multiple girls ask to see mine on a first date. Seems odd. I guess I should have followed up with "Let me inspect your body for moles, some may be precancerous".

It's amazing how far dental work has come. And the fact that so few people smoke today as compared to 50 years ago is another big factor. Look at the movies today compared to older ones back in the '60s, say. Back then a lot of actors had yellowish or grayish teeth. Now 95% of actors have brilliantly white, totally straight teeth. Some of them even look plastic

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So hes a good man with lots of great qualities but he emotionally abused you?

Do tell.

We might learn something from this.

Those are the type that they can't let go of.

 

[sazc]

So hes a good man with lots of great qualities but he emotionally abused you?

Do tell.

We might learn something from this.

6,7,8,9
https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-u...ED8RLveANj0XL-6J2PtoUUWNig1Mh-VRoCeYIQAvD_BwE

These behaviors were not something I was going to tolerate long term in a relationship. It wasn't a dynamic (s) I wanted to *deal* with in an ongoing way. Constantly having to soothe sometime when they are over the top irrationally emotional, no. At first I thought he was insecure because the relationship was new. Nope. 2 years in his behavior was the same.

He and I had several conversations about his behavior and what I was looking for. I was gently clear to him what I would and would not tolerate.

Eventually (near the end) I even went so far as to express my disappointment that I could not take him to a high school friend's napa wedding because I was not sure if he would get upset with something and have an outburst at me in the middle of the reception. The realization of that absolute reality hit me hard. How could I take him anywhere without thinking he was going to have an outburst? I couldn't count on this man as a partner. I was walking on eggshells that something I said or did would cause an outburst. That wasn't how I wanted to live the rest of my life.

I'm pretty sure his ego believed he was too good to me and that I would never leave.

 

[Spaz]

6,7,8,9
https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-u...ED8RLveANj0XL-6J2PtoUUWNig1Mh-VRoCeYIQAvD_BwE

These behaviors were not something I was going to tolerate long term in a relationship. It wasn't a dynamic (s) I wanted to *deal* with in an ongoing way. Constantly having to soothe sometime when they are over the top irrationally emotional, no. At first I thought he was insecure because the relationship was new. Nope. 2 years in his behavior was the same.

He and I had several conversations about his behavior and what I was looking for. I was gently clear to him what I would and would not tolerate.

Eventually (near the end) I even went so far as to express my disappointment that I could not take him to a high school friend's napa wedding because I was not sure if he would get upset with something and have an outburst at me in the middle of the reception. The realization of that absolute reality hit me hard. How could I take him anywhere without thinking he was going to have an outburst? I couldn't count on this man as a partner. I was walking on eggshells that something I said or did would cause an outburst. That wasn't how I wanted to live the rest of my life.

I'm pretty sure his ego believed he was too good to me and that I would never leave.

Uneven EQ.

Yours being way too high vs his.

You subconsciously view him as a boy and him wanting to "man up" resorting to 6,7,8 and 9.

Am I right?

 

[sazc]

You subconsciously view him as a boy and him wanting to "man up" resorting to 6,7,8 and 9.

Im sorry, are you suggesting that it's my fault he behaves the way he does? That I caused his behavior? That I control how he chooses to react?