"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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uncontrived questions,?

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THINK OF 3 places or three opportunities where IT d be ok and natural to use an appropriate opener

the street
" where is the station "?
IN THE SUPERMARKET
is that cheese mature?

is tht wine ok to use for a fondue?


"i am a foreign student my teacher gave me this q which FRENCH singer has written this song?"


natural congruent appropriate not contrived questions do you get it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ease

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i dont understand any of your threads :confused:
 

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I'll play with this one.

Lets say I'm in the stupormarket, by the fruit. I turn to the hot girl walking by and say "how do you tell which are the best pair of melons?"

How about i peek in her basket and say "hey, what are you making me tonight?"

Also, there's the classic "do you have any eggs? I'd like some eggs for breakfat tomorrow."


Who cares if its contrived or not? Natural openers open quick then die quick. You ask a question, you get an answer, you move on. No matter what you say, if you want to stick around and chat, its going to be contrived somehow.

How's this to open, just go up to a chick and ask if she likes pie. Its probably a better opener then asking how good she is with wine pairings.
 

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OP's post was meh but I do see the validity with uncontrived questions. A contrived question automatically puts the spotlight on you as a male being interested in her as a female.

An uncontrived question is disarming because it gives a context other than the dating scene to focus on, if only for an opener. I can see all of the examples you gave working.

Saying something random like "Do you like pie" while you are nowhere near a marketplace is also better than a contrived opener in my opinion because its randomness doesn't allow the target the assumption that you are hitting on her most times.
 
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