"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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uncharted territory with HB9

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Well last night I was sitting with some girls, a HB9 walked by and I talked to her. She said she was throwing a birthday party so I give her my number. We do some kino-ing with her standing between my legs(I was on a barstool). As she grabs her money, I ask what she wants to drink, and she offers to buy me a drink. So she bought me a whiskey. I was flattered really. Though she seemed willing, I was afraid to escalate kino too much. :cry:
Her body felt amazing though.

When I was outside the doubt and the neediness started kicking in. As she left, I basically called her name, and she turned around to see what I wanted. I said: call me so I have your number. She said: "yeah ok" and quickly ran off.

I think I may have come off a bit too needy. On the other hand I could see it as rewarding her with an IOI for buying me that drink.

I know her brother pretty well, and I've known her platonically for a few years. Her brother has game, and he's done his best in keeping her off her pedestal.

So anyone have any opinions, advice or stories of similar experiences? I haven't been bought a drink by an HB in a pretty long time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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im guessing she didn't call. you scared her off.
try again, you've already answered your question, if anything it just seemed like you were letting off some steam.
if you see her again, play it cool.
 

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justanothernormalguy said:
im guessing she didn't call. you scared her off.
try again, you've already answered your question, if anything it just seemed like you were letting off some steam.
if you see her again, play it cool.
No, she sent me a pretty sweet text. with a little x in it. And an Exclamation mark... about half an hour after I saw her.
 
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oh well then why are you asking? she obviously wanted you to have her number. Just play it like you would any other girl you will be fine.
 

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Let me tell you in more detail how the vibe between us changed during time.
Well I was attracted from the start of course since she is a 9. A number of months ago I went and visited her brother and she was doing some math homework so I tried to help her. Didn't help her much and she acted bratty. She negged me about that last week towards her friend.
Her friend is a real gossip-machine and only wants to know gossip. I made out with that girls ex-friend and nearly ****ed her, so maybe that's now resonated onto the HB9 through her friends curiosity towards me. I had assumed that my rapport with the HB9 was broken until recently, so I basically tried to ignore her though I couldn't stop admiring her ass.

Then last night I was talking to another HB9 and she walked by. That's when I tapped her on the arm and she gave me a hug and kisses. So my guess is she was feeling more needy than me at the time! As long as I didn't change the initial start of the situation too much, I should be fine.

Asking her to call/text so I have the number could be perceived as cracking under the pressure of insecurity. But what's wrong with having the number of someone who's supposed to call you?

Maybe she could see it as a DHV, because there might be people who try to call me whose calls I want to block, right? Maybe I don't pick up when I get called by "unknown numbers". Because there's so many girls stalking me.

So how do you guys think she perceives this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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