"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SoonToBeDJ

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Check out the crazy thing that happened the other day I am at work. I am a cashier and this guy and his daughter came through my line. The place is dead, I start ringing them up and the girl is talking to me but I don't really talk back and she keeps initiating convo. It turns out she works at the same store in a different location and she told me. Since I am working I am not really looking at her, just talking, when I look up to her we have ec and she raises her eyebrow fast up then down. She is a HB7 and then her fathers phone rings... I was so tempted to ask her for her # but I don't have the balls to do it infront of her dad. What would you do in that situtation?? It sucked so much that I couldn't ask for the #, even though I know where she works I don't think it would be such a good idea to go looking for her. Whats your two cents?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Porky

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OMG that is so krazy!
 

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i am in denial. it is truely unbelievable. Shlt happens. clean your shlt up and make up for it by approaching three girls.

The same kind of thing happend to me saturday night at the movies. It was during my bathroom break when I saw an HB7.5. I scanned her for anything to make a connection to, watch/clothing/hair/jewelry. NOTHING. Then she asks me "hey where are the bathroo - oh wait... you dont work here, im sorry, im sorry." I just give out my fake laugh of understanding and say "they are down that hall and to the left" I regretted it for like a minute or two. Then I went on with my life and decided not to post about it on sosuave.
 

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I find the unbelievableness of this thread very believable... :rolleyes:

What I'd say? Next her.

If you go into her store you look like a stalker. You should have just gotten the #, too late now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what are you guys talking about?! dude, she told you where she works. thats an invitation to go see her at work! she's basically telling you,"hey i work at XXXXX, i want you to ask for my number but im with my dad right now and i dont want to look like a slut in front of him. come find me at work and i'll give it to you then"

look like a stalker? hahah...use that to tease her. when you go to her store...act like you just happened to be there and when she notices you say something like,"woah...what are YOU doing here? you aren't stalking me are you?!?" but say it in a real sarcastic tone so she knows your kidding. after she stops laughing say something like,"well im glad you didn't bring your dad with you this time to protect us guys from your advances. after the look he gave me i thought he was going to go back to the car, tell you that he's got to run back inside real quick and apologize for your assertiveness. but since he's not around now, let me get your number."
 

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Have to be careful at work........could get disciplined if it seems you were coming on to her, if she doesn't like it.
 

Recluce

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not if he goes to where she works when he's off.
 

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Either go and visit her, or be a *****.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CapiCrimini

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"hey where are the bathroo - oh wait... you dont work here, im sorry, im sorry."
well you got a new opener out of it...
 
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