"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Unable to read this girl! - Need help

I

In Motion

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2008
Messages
346
Reaction score
6
Location
Basically... Everywhere
Ok guys, I'm stumped. So a while ago I had major oneitis for this girl, she had it for me too but nothing ever happened because, because well its a damn long story which you children will have to hear another night. I got rid of the horrible decease after a while and moved on. I think I still might have some subconscious feelings for her, but thats another story.

Anyways, the way she is acting towards me is really strange. Things were awkward between us after we kissed and nothing more happened. (Long story, so theres a reason i didnt do anything about it.)

Things are more normal now though, still not back to what it used to be but w/e. Anyways, so sometimes when I see her or when shes with her friends she looks like shes really shy and sorta is trying not to talk to me. But when I do talk to her shes open, normal etc. Something really weird is that when I say something funny or just witty she'll laugh and giggle and make a real gigantic smile. Sometimes she seems to really want to initiate with me, like if I say something to my bud, she turns around and is like: "Oh really? Me too!" With a big smile on her face.

Now so far I havent bothered to do anything about it, just keeping in mind that if she doesnt give me more to work with Im not going to do anything about it. Ive already spent too much time on this girl, but I just have too find out what this means, you guys have any ideas? Need any more information?

- In Motion
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

I

In Motion

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2008
Messages
346
Reaction score
6
Location
Basically... Everywhere
Ok, basically it was because she said she didnt have the time for a me, with this being an important year in school adn having extreme amounts of **** to do. She still admitted that she had a major crush on me though.
 
W

Warrior74

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2008
Messages
5,106
Reaction score
230
Ask her out. see what happens. She gave you plenty to work with. Stop looking for a green light from her. She gave you tons of them. You are a man you are suppose to LEAD! Ask her for coffee. btw...women make time for men that are important to them. they may be busy...but they will find the time for you, just like you will find the time women you want to be with. So don't buy that excuse.
 
I

In Motion

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2008
Messages
346
Reaction score
6
Location
Basically... Everywhere
Warrior74 said:
Ask her out. see what happens. She gave you plenty to work with. Stop looking for a green light from her. She gave you tons of them. You are a man you are suppose to LEAD! Ask her for coffee. btw...women make time for men that are important to them. they may be busy...but they will find the time for you, just like you will find the time women you want to be with. So don't buy that excuse.
Click to expand...
Usually in a situation like this i would go ask her out for coffee or w/e, but I already went down that road and I know she doesn't have time for a relationship this year. She is basically the only person who I can imagine having a relationship with, I get lots of action at parties so thats not the issue. Theres just something about this girl that I cant figure out....
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

S

slaog

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 16, 2008
Messages
1,722
Reaction score
51
Location
an island
In Motion said:
Ok, basically it was because she said she didnt have the time for a me, with this being an important year in school adn having extreme amounts of **** to do. She still admitted that she had a major crush on me though.
Click to expand...
So she had a "major" crush on you but didn't want to go out with you... is she normal or have any issues?
 
M

MotownMack

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2008
Messages
373
Reaction score
11
To be honest, the whole thing seems kinda pointless.

She doesn't have "time" (which btw, sounds like an excuse), and you don't sound like you're really willing to invest much more time in her (the details are sketchy at best, but it sounds like you went down that road).

And now you don't want to ask her out because she doesn't have time? How could expect this to possibly go anywhere or us to offer any advice if you're basically saying that trying to spend time with her isn't an option?

I am with Warrior74 on this one. Either look at it like she's mild resistance and push through it by getting some time with her, or just put her on the back burner.

The absolute last option at your disposal is getting her more attracted to you in more subtle ways, so she would be willing to give you time- but that would include more contact with her in less than obvious ways (just happening to be someplace where she is, for example), which will turn out to be more work than all of the above.
 
I

In Motion

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2008
Messages
346
Reaction score
6
Location
Basically... Everywhere
slaog said:
So she had a "major" crush on you but didn't want to go out with you... is she normal or have any issues?
Click to expand...
Well, noone is completely normal 0_o will clarify below.


MotownMack said:
To be honest, the whole thing seems kinda pointless.

She doesn't have "time" (which btw, sounds like an excuse), and you don't sound like you're really willing to invest much more time in her (the details are sketchy at best, but it sounds like you went down that road).

And now you don't want to ask her out because she doesn't have time? How could expect this to possibly go anywhere or us to offer any advice if you're basically saying that trying to spend time with her isn't an option?

I am with Warrior74 on this one. Either look at it like she's mild resistance and push through it by getting some time with her, or just put her on the back burner.

The absolute last option at your disposal is getting her more attracted to you in more subtle ways, so she would be willing to give you time- but that would include more contact with her in less than obvious ways (just happening to be someplace where she is, for example), which will turn out to be more work than all of the above.
Click to expand...
Ok, first of all. I know that what I wrote was very lacking in details and logic. (Details thing is mostly because I dont like sharing personal stuff online.)

But I will clarify: The doesn't have time issue; first I thought it was just some bull****. But this chick has a fvckin loaded schedule! I didn't believe it! She has school work and work out every single day, and has no spare time. I still think it was a pretty bad excuse, I don't really have these issues, I don't really do anything in school (still get good grades :D). The point is; the girl really and truly doesnt have any free time!

Anyways, the reason I posted this was because I wanted your opinion on whether she might be interested or not, because then it would be worth trying to get her. Appreciate the honesty, I actually have to agree that it seems pointless, but no fvcking way if I am giving up.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

J

JackPrescott

Banned
Joined
Apr 19, 2005
Messages
860
Reaction score
7
In Motion said:
Ok guys, I'm stumped. So a while ago I had major oneitis for this girl, she had it for me too but nothing ever happened because, because well its a damn long story which you children will have to hear another night. I got rid of the horrible decease after a while and moved on. I think I still might have some subconscious feelings for her, but thats another story.

Anyways, the way she is acting towards me is really strange. Things were awkward between us after we kissed and nothing more happened. (Long story, so theres a reason i didnt do anything about it.)

Things are more normal now though, still not back to what it used to be but w/e. Anyways, so sometimes when I see her or when shes with her friends she looks like shes really shy and sorta is trying not to talk to me. But when I do talk to her shes open, normal etc. Something really weird is that when I say something funny or just witty she'll laugh and giggle and make a real gigantic smile. Sometimes she seems to really want to initiate with me, like if I say something to my bud, she turns around and is like: "Oh really? Me too!" With a big smile on her face.

Now so far I havent bothered to do anything about it, just keeping in mind that if she doesnt give me more to work with Im not going to do anything about it. Ive already spent too much time on this girl, but I just have too find out what this means, you guys have any ideas? Need any more information?

- In Motion
Click to expand...
Ask her out. If she readily accepts and doesnt flake, she is interested. If she LJBFs your ass, or flakes she is playing flirt games.
 
M

MacAvoy

Banned
Joined
May 10, 2003
Messages
2,940
Reaction score
35
Location
Northern Ontario
Without the rest of the story, the advice that your going to get here is flawed because we are missing a key aspect.

More importantly though, you need to move on with your life.
 
D

DonGorgon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2007
Messages
4,679
Reaction score
102
Location
Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
MacAvoy said:
Without the rest of the story, the advice that your going to get here is flawed because we are missing a key aspect.

More importantly though, you need to move on with your life.
Click to expand...
I got all the info i needed its simple she was not interested enough to make time for him.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

I

In Motion

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2008
Messages
346
Reaction score
6
Location
Basically... Everywhere
JackPrescott said:
Ask her out. If she readily accepts and doesnt flake, she is interested. If she LJBFs your ass, or flakes she is playing flirt games.
Click to expand...
You could have bothered to read my post above yours :cheer:
 
S

scottfall

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 8, 2007
Messages
155
Reaction score
9
In Motion said:
You could have bothered to read my post above yours :cheer:
Click to expand...
Fine. Tell us what you want to hear and thats what well tell you...
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top