Befuddled
Don Juan
All right, been on these boards for a while now and been learning from your experiences as well. But I think imp messing up somewhere, and I need some help. I think I ought to lay out some experiences for you to illustrate my situations.
#1. Met girl at a party, struck up a conversation. Was going great, but she ended up mentioning her bf, which kind of threw me off course, but I handled it pretty well. She got a liking to me, I think; we talked for a good 20-30 minutes. Next day, a group of us went out on an excursion, I hung out with my other girl 'friend', so she paid more attention to another guy, which didn’t really bother me, but I would have preferred to be around her. I didn’t want to force to or make it too obvious. So im thinking that possibility tanked.
#2. Met this one at the same party, talked for a good amount of time. I was totally drunk.... I mean. I don’t remember her name or her face. But she [ad attention to me and I to her and I was pretty coherent. My friend, suddenly became a wingman out of nowhere and surprised the hell outtalk me when he came over and started telling the girl..."you have found the two collets guys in the village" or something to that effect. But that conversation tanked when we started talking about music/clubs/dancing...I was upfront and honest. She told me she liked R&B and hated techno. Personally I’m not a fan of either and I told her I could barely dance to either since im more the punk/rock fan. So time came to part, and her friends had started walking off and so had mine. So I asked for her number (she just got here and had a new phone), so she fumbled around looking for it, but couldn’t so I was like whatever, and we went our separate ways. I’m guessing that she prolly didn’t want to give me the number, so that tanked as well.
#3. Met this other girl, who is amazing cool and reasonably attractive. Haven’t gotten any clear positive signals from her cause we started hanging out in the same group and she treats all the guys the same, but I think we are getting a little close, not very visible, but we are. But im still hesitant cause she treats us all the same when we are ****y/funny with her.
#4. This chick and me had a LOT in common and we talked a lot when we went to the bars in a group and when we walked back from the bars. Then the next day she comes over and while she leaves I say 'cya later', and practically get shot down with 'I don’t think so'. So im pretty sure that’s a lost cause.shes currently gone chopping with a friend of mine. We exchange 'hi'-'bye' & 'hows it going's.
#5. Really cool girl...kind of like one of the boys. Met her one night, walking back fro mthe bars, and she suddenly starts ragging me out of nowhere, and tell me I have a skinny ass (and then grabs it quite freely). Next day I get a ' you have a very attractive nose, with a lot of character', and 'you should be in modeling' or something. BUT she seems to be spending more time with other guys.
#6. Met a whole bunch of girls (not at the same time), made good conversation and eye contact, but now when I see them I get a 'hi' and that’s about it. It’s friggon annoying....
I mean I don’t want to act too needy (cause im not) or anything, but why do you guys think it isn’t going any further than that? Im not out there being desperate and trying to bag a chick, im just being myself being 'cool' making good conversation, getting to know them a bit. And then nothing. I know where most of them live, except for the one I asked for the number, which I dint get. I mean whets your diagnosis? I need some help here.... seriously cause I’m feeling kind of disappointed.
Cheers.
#1. Met girl at a party, struck up a conversation. Was going great, but she ended up mentioning her bf, which kind of threw me off course, but I handled it pretty well. She got a liking to me, I think; we talked for a good 20-30 minutes. Next day, a group of us went out on an excursion, I hung out with my other girl 'friend', so she paid more attention to another guy, which didn’t really bother me, but I would have preferred to be around her. I didn’t want to force to or make it too obvious. So im thinking that possibility tanked.
#2. Met this one at the same party, talked for a good amount of time. I was totally drunk.... I mean. I don’t remember her name or her face. But she [ad attention to me and I to her and I was pretty coherent. My friend, suddenly became a wingman out of nowhere and surprised the hell outtalk me when he came over and started telling the girl..."you have found the two collets guys in the village" or something to that effect. But that conversation tanked when we started talking about music/clubs/dancing...I was upfront and honest. She told me she liked R&B and hated techno. Personally I’m not a fan of either and I told her I could barely dance to either since im more the punk/rock fan. So time came to part, and her friends had started walking off and so had mine. So I asked for her number (she just got here and had a new phone), so she fumbled around looking for it, but couldn’t so I was like whatever, and we went our separate ways. I’m guessing that she prolly didn’t want to give me the number, so that tanked as well.
#3. Met this other girl, who is amazing cool and reasonably attractive. Haven’t gotten any clear positive signals from her cause we started hanging out in the same group and she treats all the guys the same, but I think we are getting a little close, not very visible, but we are. But im still hesitant cause she treats us all the same when we are ****y/funny with her.
#4. This chick and me had a LOT in common and we talked a lot when we went to the bars in a group and when we walked back from the bars. Then the next day she comes over and while she leaves I say 'cya later', and practically get shot down with 'I don’t think so'. So im pretty sure that’s a lost cause.shes currently gone chopping with a friend of mine. We exchange 'hi'-'bye' & 'hows it going's.
#5. Really cool girl...kind of like one of the boys. Met her one night, walking back fro mthe bars, and she suddenly starts ragging me out of nowhere, and tell me I have a skinny ass (and then grabs it quite freely). Next day I get a ' you have a very attractive nose, with a lot of character', and 'you should be in modeling' or something. BUT she seems to be spending more time with other guys.
#6. Met a whole bunch of girls (not at the same time), made good conversation and eye contact, but now when I see them I get a 'hi' and that’s about it. It’s friggon annoying....
I mean I don’t want to act too needy (cause im not) or anything, but why do you guys think it isn’t going any further than that? Im not out there being desperate and trying to bag a chick, im just being myself being 'cool' making good conversation, getting to know them a bit. And then nothing. I know where most of them live, except for the one I asked for the number, which I dint get. I mean whets your diagnosis? I need some help here.... seriously cause I’m feeling kind of disappointed.
Cheers.