"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BlueAlpha1

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Learned a lesson last week men. I was on vacation in Florida, shopping in a store browsing at some clothes. Spotted an HB8 nearby and grabbed a borderline sweater. Tried it on and asked her about the fit...

What followed was a one hour long conversation with laughter, a description of my blog (one thing I did well was tell a good "story", essentially selling my blog's central thesis with some life experiences - she ate that up), and a few sexual innuendos.

When I went for the number close, I got the "I have a boyfriend" test. I busted her nuts on it a little, to the extent she went to the back to get her phone and came back to me on her break and show me photos on Facebook. My mistake? Never insult the boyfriend. She immediately stormed off.

That being said, I would feel extremely uncomfortable with a girl who would chat up a guy in a store she works at for an hour. Enormous red flag.

Lesson learned.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Masuer, wouldn't you find though that many women actually can't even be bothered with that now? In other words, having a flirty conversation even if they're not down to bang, because it's a human connection?

It seems like the majority of girls give you an attitude because you've distracted her from her iPhone. Such a sad state of affairs.
 

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HB: I have a boyfriend

DJ: Oh OK here is my number give it to him. Have him call me when you guys split if he wants a great wingman.
 
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I'm not hating on this girl. It was a pleasant conversation, and insulting the boyfriend is a ridiculous thing to do.

She was friendly and had a sense of humor. It was vastly better than trying to chat up one of these smartphone zombies.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jeffy and Alex from RSD call this "getting used for your personality." A way to help prevent this is to be a bit more overtly sexual from the get-go, so they know what the deal is and that this isn't a platonic interaction. You'll lose some sets faster, but those sets were going nowhere anyway.
 

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"You have a boyfriend? This is your lucky day... Now you can have two!"

I've used that in the past to great effect but I'm not sure if it's too old school these days.
 

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BlueAlpha1 said:
That being said, I would feel extremely uncomfortable with a girl who would chat up a guy in a store she works at for an hour. Enormous red flag.
I find it amusing when young guys here think that, just because a woman has a boyfriend, it somehow means she can't even have friendly chats with other men. I suppose they should be wearing veils as well?

It's endlessly interesting to see the fear of cuckoldry in young men play out here. I think it's genetic. But it lessens as you age. You stop taking yourself quite so seriously.

To be quick, this chick never had any sexual interest in you. I'm sure this scenario has played out exactly this way dozens, if not hundreds of times for her.

Read and learn:

http://matingmarket.wordpress.com/2011/11/15/dont-hit-on-women-who-are-paid-to-be-nice-to-you/
 
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I find it amusing that people who have somehow accumulated about a trillion posts on a forum don't read before they reply. Did you not see the part where I talked about sexual innuendos? To clarify, I'm talking about 2 penis jokes that she made.

Your talk of cuckoldry in this context is babble. I was talking about was a mistake in the pickup I made where I negged the boyfriend. But I'll entertain your babble for a moment.

Given your ungodly post count, I'm surprised you don't know most guys on here would tell you that a taken girl supposed to be working, who gets distracted for an hour by a guy and begins to tell sex jokes is indirectly showing a degree of disrespect for her man.

I'll check out that blog you linked up, and return the favor to you! If you're trying to be a bit more productive with your spare time why don't you check out my signature and learn a little yourself!
 
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