"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BlueAlpha1

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Learned a lesson last week men. I was on vacation in Florida, shopping in a store browsing at some clothes. Spotted an HB8 nearby and grabbed a borderline sweater. Tried it on and asked her about the fit...

What followed was a one hour long conversation with laughter, a description of my blog (one thing I did well was tell a good "story", essentially selling my blog's central thesis with some life experiences - she ate that up), and a few sexual innuendos.

When I went for the number close, I got the "I have a boyfriend" test. I busted her nuts on it a little, to the extent she went to the back to get her phone and came back to me on her break and show me photos on Facebook. My mistake? Never insult the boyfriend. She immediately stormed off.

That being said, I would feel extremely uncomfortable with a girl who would chat up a guy in a store she works at for an hour. Enormous red flag.

Lesson learned.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BlueAlpha1

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Masuer, wouldn't you find though that many women actually can't even be bothered with that now? In other words, having a flirty conversation even if they're not down to bang, because it's a human connection?

It seems like the majority of girls give you an attitude because you've distracted her from her iPhone. Such a sad state of affairs.
 

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HB: I have a boyfriend

DJ: Oh OK here is my number give it to him. Have him call me when you guys split if he wants a great wingman.
 
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I'm not hating on this girl. It was a pleasant conversation, and insulting the boyfriend is a ridiculous thing to do.

She was friendly and had a sense of humor. It was vastly better than trying to chat up one of these smartphone zombies.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Jeffy and Alex from RSD call this "getting used for your personality." A way to help prevent this is to be a bit more overtly sexual from the get-go, so they know what the deal is and that this isn't a platonic interaction. You'll lose some sets faster, but those sets were going nowhere anyway.
 

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"You have a boyfriend? This is your lucky day... Now you can have two!"

I've used that in the past to great effect but I'm not sure if it's too old school these days.
 

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BlueAlpha1 said:
That being said, I would feel extremely uncomfortable with a girl who would chat up a guy in a store she works at for an hour. Enormous red flag.
I find it amusing when young guys here think that, just because a woman has a boyfriend, it somehow means she can't even have friendly chats with other men. I suppose they should be wearing veils as well?

It's endlessly interesting to see the fear of cuckoldry in young men play out here. I think it's genetic. But it lessens as you age. You stop taking yourself quite so seriously.

To be quick, this chick never had any sexual interest in you. I'm sure this scenario has played out exactly this way dozens, if not hundreds of times for her.

Read and learn:

http://matingmarket.wordpress.com/2011/11/15/dont-hit-on-women-who-are-paid-to-be-nice-to-you/
 
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I find it amusing that people who have somehow accumulated about a trillion posts on a forum don't read before they reply. Did you not see the part where I talked about sexual innuendos? To clarify, I'm talking about 2 penis jokes that she made.

Your talk of cuckoldry in this context is babble. I was talking about was a mistake in the pickup I made where I negged the boyfriend. But I'll entertain your babble for a moment.

Given your ungodly post count, I'm surprised you don't know most guys on here would tell you that a taken girl supposed to be working, who gets distracted for an hour by a guy and begins to tell sex jokes is indirectly showing a degree of disrespect for her man.

I'll check out that blog you linked up, and return the favor to you! If you're trying to be a bit more productive with your spare time why don't you check out my signature and learn a little yourself!
 
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