"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ultimate AFC/Oneitis song

DonJuanabe

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We've all been there. It sucks. This forum helps a man open his eyes and accept the reality of his situation. Many of you won't know this song but the lyrics will resonate strongly because they are about you at that point in your life. And there are even DJ lessons in the song (e.g. "He never made her think twice" = don't be AFC, you have to be a challenge, you have to keep her just slightly wondering whether you might leave her, etc.). It's kinda sad.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0u-rfhgUsoI

He came from somewhere back in her long ago
The sentimental fool don't see, tryin' hard to recreate
What had yet to be created
Once in her life she musters a smile for his nostalgic tale
Never coming near what he wanted to say
Only to realize it never really was
She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice
As he rises to her apology
Anybody else would surely know
He's watching her go
But what a fool believes he sees
No wise man has the power to reason away
What seems to be is always better than nothing
And nothing at all keeps sending him
Somewhere back in her long ago
Where he can still believe there's a place in her life
Someday, somewhere, she will return
She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice
As he rises to her apology Anybody else would surely know
He's watching her go
But what a fool believes he sees
No wise man has the power to reason away
What seems to be is always better than nothing
There's nothing at all but what a fool believes he sees
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rick Astley is the biggest AFC music artist out there.
"Never gonna give you up"
"My arms keep missing"
"Whenever you need somebody"
"Together forever"
Basically every song.
 

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I'd have to say that Justin Bieber's new song is the most pathetic I've heard in a loooong time.
"As long as you love me"??? Fvcking makes me cringe every damn time I hear it.
 

DonJuanabe

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Guys, the point of the "What a Fool Believes" song isn't that the AFC is angry, hostile, etc. and the perspective isn't first person. It is from a third person perspective, from someone whose judgment isn't clouded, who can see the truth that the AFC won't allow himself to see. It is much like this forum, where you have other people pointing out to you what is really going on though you don't want to believe it. The tone of the song is wise and somewhat sorrowful, not because of what the girl did or didn't do (it isn't about the girl at all) or because the AFC is angry or weak, but because he hasn't learned what he needs to learn in order to become wise rather than be a fool. It provides a very good perspective for men to always keep in mind when things are not going well with a woman and you find yourself hoping, wanting, wishing... but the reality is otherwise.

If you have not listened to it you really should; it is a very powerful song because all men can relate to being the fool and while some still are, a DJ can reflect on having been the fool in the past, seeing the truth in the song, and realizing that as a DJ he can see himself in the shoes of the third person narrator. In other words, a DJ has played both roles in the song -- in the past the fool, in the present the narrator.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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