"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In2theGame

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I need advice,

Im kinda seeing someone.. things are goin good. So Ive been talkin to an old friend on AIM (HB 9) and we dont speak alot but sometimes she IM's me with a "hey" and we talk briefly. She was a chick i hung out with a long time ago and i AFC'ed out by not doing anything! the night we hung out. Sooo Fast forward to recent times..... The other night, i was just jokin but i IMed her with, "Wanna go out to a movie and hang out late?" she laughed and to my surprise she answered "Yea that would be nice!" i was like Oh fuk...... Now she IM's be with "So when are we going on a date!?"... Im thinkin, what should i do. To make matters worse she says "We can go out and then we can come up to my Apt and hang out for a bit" :nervous: .... Need advice on how to proceed in this situation. Keep in mind, this is a HB 9 and she's never open like this, ... Gotta think quick because the Puzz... Err... Iron is Hot right now....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheBaconator

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In2theGame said:
I need advice,

Im kinda seeing someone.. things are goin good. So Ive been talkin to an old friend on AIM (HB 9) and we dont speak alot but sometimes she IM's me with a "hey" and we talk briefly. She was a chick i hung out with a long time ago and i AFC'ed out by not doing anything! the night we hung out. Sooo Fast forward to recent times..... The other night, i was just jokin but i IMed her with, "Wanna go out to a movie and hang out late?" she laughed and to my surprise she answered "Yea that would be nice!" i was like Oh fuk...... Now she IM's be with "So when are we going on a date!?"... Im thinkin, what should i do. To make matters worse she says "We can go out and then we can come up to my Apt and hang out for a bit" :nervous: .... Need advice on how to proceed in this situation. Keep in mind, this is a HB 9 and she's never open like this, ... Gotta think quick because the Puzz... Err... Iron is Hot right now....

Doesn't seem like you have to do anything, she's doing all the pursuing.

So what if you are seeing someone? Are you married? You say you're "kinda seeing her". Well that sounds like an open invitation for you both to "kinda" see others.
 

War Against Betaism

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Wait...what exactly is the problem here?
 

Aragon034

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yeah, if those were the kinds of problems i was having i'd probably solve it with a good shopping trip to banana republic or any other fine clothing store. then maybe a facial... *Kidding*

She's initiating dude, just don't act desperate, go with the flow, and don't be afraid to initiate yourself if it feels right.

i wouldn't worry too much about your prior AFC action. as long as she sees that to you it's in the past, it really shouldn't matter anymore.

as far as your current GF... well. have you worked out an exclusiveness with her? were she in your shoes would she be worrying about it?
 

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You either cheat on your GF or you don't. It's your call and nobody else's.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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