"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In2theGame

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I need advice,

Im kinda seeing someone.. things are goin good. So Ive been talkin to an old friend on AIM (HB 9) and we dont speak alot but sometimes she IM's me with a "hey" and we talk briefly. She was a chick i hung out with a long time ago and i AFC'ed out by not doing anything! the night we hung out. Sooo Fast forward to recent times..... The other night, i was just jokin but i IMed her with, "Wanna go out to a movie and hang out late?" she laughed and to my surprise she answered "Yea that would be nice!" i was like Oh fuk...... Now she IM's be with "So when are we going on a date!?"... Im thinkin, what should i do. To make matters worse she says "We can go out and then we can come up to my Apt and hang out for a bit" :nervous: .... Need advice on how to proceed in this situation. Keep in mind, this is a HB 9 and she's never open like this, ... Gotta think quick because the Puzz... Err... Iron is Hot right now....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheBaconator

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In2theGame said:
I need advice,

Im kinda seeing someone.. things are goin good. So Ive been talkin to an old friend on AIM (HB 9) and we dont speak alot but sometimes she IM's me with a "hey" and we talk briefly. She was a chick i hung out with a long time ago and i AFC'ed out by not doing anything! the night we hung out. Sooo Fast forward to recent times..... The other night, i was just jokin but i IMed her with, "Wanna go out to a movie and hang out late?" she laughed and to my surprise she answered "Yea that would be nice!" i was like Oh fuk...... Now she IM's be with "So when are we going on a date!?"... Im thinkin, what should i do. To make matters worse she says "We can go out and then we can come up to my Apt and hang out for a bit" :nervous: .... Need advice on how to proceed in this situation. Keep in mind, this is a HB 9 and she's never open like this, ... Gotta think quick because the Puzz... Err... Iron is Hot right now....

Doesn't seem like you have to do anything, she's doing all the pursuing.

So what if you are seeing someone? Are you married? You say you're "kinda seeing her". Well that sounds like an open invitation for you both to "kinda" see others.
 

War Against Betaism

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Wait...what exactly is the problem here?
 

Aragon034

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yeah, if those were the kinds of problems i was having i'd probably solve it with a good shopping trip to banana republic or any other fine clothing store. then maybe a facial... *Kidding*

She's initiating dude, just don't act desperate, go with the flow, and don't be afraid to initiate yourself if it feels right.

i wouldn't worry too much about your prior AFC action. as long as she sees that to you it's in the past, it really shouldn't matter anymore.

as far as your current GF... well. have you worked out an exclusiveness with her? were she in your shoes would she be worrying about it?
 

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You either cheat on your GF or you don't. It's your call and nobody else's.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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