Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ugent advise needed

cjb

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Let me get straight to the point.
> There is this 24 yr old lady t work that i really like a lot man.
> Im 26 and started working here recently. When i saw here the first day i
> send her an email saying that i think she is good looking and we started
> emailing at work and then started meeting for cigarette brakes. we also
> went for drinks once.
> the thing is, she has a boyfriend and always had one.
> Anyway "relationship/friendship" went on between us but nothing
> happened. then she just said to me one day that she wnt leave her
> bfriend and we should stop being so close.
> i never told her to leave her boyfriend. we just stopped emailing. I
> send her email asking hows she is doing, but no responds.
> Do you think that its all lost and that she will not leave her
> boyfriend? Then why did we get along so well and even went fro drinks?
> So wheat did i do wrong and what should be done next?
> Please advise.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Apocalypse Now

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Don't pay attention to her anymore. Let her see you flirt with other employees. She'll either come around or she won't, but start accepting that she won't.
 

cjb

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Hey Apocalypse Now.
We work in different departments so we hardly see each other, so the chances of her seeing me flirting with another employee are pretty slim. Does this mean that this is it?
 
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