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UC Berkeley professor tells student to 'get out of the Bay Area' if they want a girlfriend

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https://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/uc-berkeley-professor-criticized-comments-women-19363213.php

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“If you want a girlfriend, get out of the Bay Area. Almost everywhere else on the planet is better for that. I’m not kidding at all. You’ll be shocked by the stark differences in behavior of women in places where women are plentiful versus their behavior within artillery distance of San Jose and San Francisco.”

And promptly was forced to issue a retraction by university officials who said:

“The comment was hurtful and threatening to students — particularly women — in his class and beyond,” she said. “We strive to foster a supportive, inclusive environment for all our students, and we invite everyone to continue to engage with us as we work to improve the climate for our community.”

A man speaks in he utter truth and gets taken out…
 

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You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This might be true.

My sister who went to college for Berkeley, doesn't shave her legs.

I recently asked our mother this... She said she don't know and agrees with me that it looks strange. And mentioned stuff about her being the NorCal kind of girl now.
 

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I saw that.

Related news.


To wit: men cannot be left alone to associate with other men or women outside of a geographic location.
 

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“If you want a girlfriend, get out of the Bay Area. Almost everywhere else on the planet is better for that. I’m not kidding at all. You’ll be shocked by the stark differences in behavior of women in places where women are plentiful versus their behavior within artillery distance of San Jose and San Francisco.”
The professor says “to get out of the Bay Area” to get a girlfriend, but he doesn't specify “where to go”to get a girlfriend,

They would have kicked me out of school if I used that type of logic.
 

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Personally, I do OK here, but I'm not in college.

Anecdotally, when I did travel a lot for work it was astonishing the increase in quality of women I was able to date out of state...
 

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Professor Jonathan Shewchuk is correct in his assertions. The San Francisco Bay Area/Silicon Valley is not an easy place to date.

He is a computer science professor and there are plenty of computer science type jobs in the Bay Area. It makes sense that a UC Berkeley graduate with a computer science degree would want to stay in the region and work for a locally based employer.

The Bay Area seems to be a bit of a weird dating environment because there are ambitious feminist/careerist women with bachelor's degrees or higher and adequate or better social skills trying to date Aspie STEM guys with poor social skills and an inability to meaningfully connect to women. While these two groups have similar levels of education and sometimes similar earning capacity, they don't seem to mesh well.

Additionally, there are a lot of weird chicks in the Bay Area with alternative lifestyles. In considering the women in the Bay Area actually open to penis, there are a lot of bisexual, pansexual, polyamorous, and other lesser mainstream type chicks there. The purely heterosexual woman is less common there.

Shewchuk himself has been able to get laid as he has a wife. Despite being some likely odd STEM nerd, he was able to himself an East Asian girlfriend and later wife. A lot of White males who struggle with White females due to not giving White women "all the feelz" end up with some East Asian woman. Mark Zuckerberg is a commonly cited example of that.

 

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The professor says “to get out of the Bay Area” to get a girlfriend, but he doesn't specify “where to go”to get a girlfriend,

They would have kicked me out of school if I used that type of logic.
Sacramento is the state capitol and full of female government workers, just 90 miles up the road.

90 miles up the road from where I am currently is a smaller sister city with a much worse dating scene (Phoenix vs Tucson).

Location matters.
 

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Personally, I do OK here, but I'm not in college.

Anecdotally, when I did travel a lot for work it was astonishing the increase in quality of women I was able to date out of state...
Any place were there is a high concentration of wealth (and men with six figure incomes) is going to be suboptimal for dating. That kind of environment inevitably breeds entitled women.
 

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One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

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“If you want a girlfriend, get out of the Bay Area. Almost everywhere else on the planet is better for that. I’m not kidding at all. You’ll be shocked by the stark differences in behavior of women in places where women are plentiful versus their behavior within artillery distance of San Jose and San Francisco.”

That is a very generalized statement with absolutely no specifics whatsoever.

No stats, no data, no specifics.

Just a baseless, unsupported opinion.

Worthless article, worthless subject.

Moving on, nothing to see here.
 

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https://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/uc-berkeley-professor-criticized-comments-women-19363213.php

True:

“If you want a girlfriend, get out of the Bay Area. Almost everywhere else on the planet is better for that. I’m not kidding at all. You’ll be shocked by the stark differences in behavior of women in places where women are plentiful versus their behavior within artillery distance of San Jose and San Francisco.”

And promptly was forced to issue a retraction by university officials who said:

“The comment was hurtful and threatening to students — particularly women — in his class and beyond,” she said. “We strive to foster a supportive, inclusive environment for all our students, and we invite everyone to continue to engage with us as we work to improve the climate for our community.”

A man speaks in he utter truth and gets taken out…
It’s not that bad.
But. I will admit. Elsewhere is better.
 
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Any place were there is a high concentration of wealth (and men with six figure incomes) is going to be suboptimal for dating. That kind of environment inevitably breeds entitled women.
Def. applies to switzerland. Specifically to the zurich area.
 

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Any place were there is a high concentration of wealth (and men with six figure incomes) is going to be suboptimal for dating. That kind of environment inevitably breeds entitled women.
What's unique about the Bay Area is not only what you described, but also a long-standing tradition of leftism *and* idyllic geographical conditions. In such a place a stressed out woman can go outside for a hike or sit by the ocean and be rejuvenated (the same thing you also have in the Mediterranean Sea region, where women are known to be generally difficult). You put the same woman in hot and humid Houston, Texas and she'll have little option but to phuck for stress relief.
 

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You put the same woman in hot and humid Houston, Texas and she'll have little option but to phuck for stress relief.
Disagree. A feminist/careerist woman in San Francisco is going to be a miserable feminist/careerist woman in Houston.

90 miles up the road from where I am currently is a smaller sister city with a much worse dating scene (Phoenix vs Tucson).

Location matters.
Tucson might be one of the worst dating scenes in the USA for a metro area of its size (1 million people). The biggest problem with Tucson is that while it is a sizable metro area, it is completely overshadowed by Phoenix just 115 miles away. Metro Phoenix has 4.5+ million people so it is considered the leading city in Arizona.

A metro area the size of Tucson in a state without a bigger population center nearby would be a more thriving area.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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https://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/uc-berkeley-professor-criticized-comments-women-19363213.php

True:

“If you want a girlfriend, get out of the Bay Area. Almost everywhere else on the planet is better for that. I’m not kidding at all. You’ll be shocked by the stark differences in behavior of women in places where women are plentiful versus their behavior within artillery distance of San Jose and San Francisco.”

And promptly was forced to issue a retraction by university officials who said:

“The comment was hurtful and threatening to students — particularly women — in his class and beyond,” she said. “We strive to foster a supportive, inclusive environment for all our students, and we invite everyone to continue to engage with us as we work to improve the climate for our community.”

A man speaks in he utter truth and gets taken out…
It's near impossible for a straight guy to find companionship, in a locale where most the female population identifies as non-binary
 

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It's near impossible for a straight guy to find companionship, in a locale where most the female population identifies as non-binary
I'm here. I've found the 'non-binary' LGBTQ... is mostly a form of virtue signaling. Girls here are still hungry for dvck. Being a Woke feminist is a perfect way for women to keep men they aren't into a arms length. But. Like anywhere. They break rules for guys they are into.
 

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Disagree. A feminist/careerist woman in San Francisco is going to be a miserable feminist/careerist woman in Houston.
What I'm saying is that a great natural environment where you can de-stress easily just by walking outside serves to reduce a woman's stress level to where she's less needing to rely on sex as a stress relief outlet. This would apply to places like San Diego, Hawaii, and the Mediterranean Sea area as well.

On a somewhat related note, warmer places with hot/humid summers tend to amplify a woman's sex drive (Houston, Arizona, and Florida would be examples)
 
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I'm here. I've found the 'non-binary' LGBTQ... is mostly a form of virtue signaling. Girls here are still hungry for dvck. Being a Woke feminist is a perfect way for women to keep men they aren't into a arms length. But. Like anywhere. They break rules for guys they are into.
Well, that's more marvelous than Ms Maisel's bare bosom to read :)
 

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A while back, I wrote a thread saying that the bad gender ratio and abundance of single men is the blame for society wide problems with dating. It is that simple regardless of the politics. Even if the single dudes are dorks, like most single dudes in San Fran are, it still leads to an inflated ego on the women. I got backlash for it.

We have too many single men in the prime dating ages, that is why female ego is through the roof.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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