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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LOLAtom Smasher said:Feminists.
I never really thought about any sort of list but maybe thats not a bad idea.loveshogun said:My big four for LTR, for example, are:
1) Emotional stability - ability to see life as reality rather than drama, her feelings don't change at the drop of a hat
2) Independence - doesn't need me to do anything that she should do for herself
3) Proximity - before the internet and phone, we never would even think of having a long distance relationship. Just because the situation has changed doesn't mean the human hunting instinct hasn't.
4) Trustworthy - if I need to, I have to be able to trust this person with my life.
If a girl doesn't bring those 4 things, I can't seriously consider an LTR with her.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exactly. Also, if she mentions an abusive ex or an ex that is still stalking her, I run for the hills.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:1. Girls who have dated bad boys(criminals, drug dealers, losers) in the past
So True, nice guys always finish last.Robert28 said:women who throw themselves a pitty party when you first meet them- these are the girls who tell you "i can't meet a nice guy", "ive never had a guy buy me flowers", "i just want a guy to treat me good". sounds easy right? don't fall for this trap!!!! what shes really saying is she bangs guys on the first date, second date at the latest. guess what? none of them ever bought her a damn thing or "treated her right" but they still banged her. buy her flowers, kiss her ass, tell her how lovely she is and how lucky you are to have met her and watch her not be interested in you at all and then go bang some jerk next weekend. seen it a million times, had it happen to me plenty. live and learn my friends, live and learn.
there's alot more but people have covered most of them. these are just two more i wanted to add.
Robert28 said:here's the types of women i've learned to avoid.
liberal women- not trying to offend any of you liberals on here, but liberal women are the worst! they SAY they want to find a man that can hold a "discussion" but that only means he must agree with all of her views and everything she says. different opinion be dammed! she's right, she will always be right, and everyone that doesn't agree with her or see things her way are "dumb rednecks" or "uneducated". you'll spot these a mile away because they'll come right out and tell you who they are, theyre usually never happy though, they always seemed pissed off about everything.
women who throw themselves a pitty party when you first meet them- these are the girls who tell you "i can't meet a nice guy", "ive never had a guy buy me flowers", "i just want a guy to treat me good". sounds easy right? don't fall for this trap!!!! what shes really saying is she bangs guys on the first date, second date at the latest. guess what? none of them ever bought her a damn thing or "treated her right" but they still banged her. buy her flowers, kiss her ass, tell her how lovely she is and how lucky you are to have met her and watch her not be interested in you at all and then go bang some jerk next weekend. seen it a million times, had it happen to me plenty. live and learn my friends, live and learn.
there's alot more but people have covered most of them. these are just two more i wanted to add.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fair enough. It's best to just avoid those kinds of debates when running game. Sadly, there are some people (on both sides) who insist on bringing those subjects up.handle said:Your description of "liberal women" just sounds like stubborn, brash women who don't know how to have a fun conversation... And who happen to be liberal.
Correct.
I've met plenty of grating conservatives too who don't seem to understand that I'm not interested in talking about where I stand on social issues when we're just grabbing a drink.
Absolutely right, you included all the pointsbigneil said:Women to avoid:
1) BPD
2) Alcoholic
3) Molested as a child (sexual issues)
4) Drug user
5) Smoker
6) Cheater
7) Barfly
8) Doesn't love her father
9) Just got out of LTR/Marriage (esp. if they were dumped)
10) Bisexual (it just means general infidelity)
11) Facebook junkie (low self esteem)
12) Cougar (will hit on any guy with an ID)
13) Mean spirited
14) Someone who mainly dates guys because "they are hot" (shallow)
15) Still involved with ex who abused her and/or cheated on her
16) Slept around
17) Too many tattoo's
18) Fake lips, boobs, etc.
19) Too much makeup
20) Cares too much about her cell phone
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You beat me to it. These women are TOXIC, and begin PREYING on men once they realize their kid needs a REAL MAN for a daddy. Suddenly the games STOP. They are useful, however, as comparisons to single women, just to show that these women are CAPABLE of better behavior, but won't engage in it until life forces them to.Kailex said:Single Mothers.
And by proxy, I'll speak for BigJimbo and just say 99% of American women.![]()
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.