Jariel, I generally agree with your philosophy (basically KISS), but I like to use a sports analogy. Say in basketball, for a jumpshot you at first think about flicking your wrist on a jumpshot, when to release the ball, feet shoulder width apart, etc....tons of things when you are PRACTICING. Then, in the game it just comes natural, but you need to put in lots of practice. I think that's the essense of this checklist. It is not saying you should constantly think about these things, but you should practice them whenever possible.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
TylerDurden’s 25 Point Checklist on Basic AFC (ie DJ) Mistakes
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I see this thread has been resurrected.
Again, these 25 pts. only address the symptoms, and not the cause of those symptoms.
Address the cause, and the symptoms will be taken care of.
Example: You hurt your back, so you take pain medication.
The pain meds mask the pain (symptoms) but the cause of the pain still exists.
Instead of just trying to treat the symptoms with pain meds, one needs to address the cause of the pain, thru rest, physical therapy, back exercises, or even surgery if required.
Otherwise, the cause will still exist, even though the symptoms are being masked by the meds.
And this is why guys like TD are detrimental to your growth as a person, as a Man, as a DJ, because they only address the symptoms and not the cause.
Being an AFC with game still makes one an AFC
You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig...
Again, these 25 pts. only address the symptoms, and not the cause of those symptoms.
Address the cause, and the symptoms will be taken care of.
Example: You hurt your back, so you take pain medication.
The pain meds mask the pain (symptoms) but the cause of the pain still exists.
Instead of just trying to treat the symptoms with pain meds, one needs to address the cause of the pain, thru rest, physical therapy, back exercises, or even surgery if required.
Otherwise, the cause will still exist, even though the symptoms are being masked by the meds.
And this is why guys like TD are detrimental to your growth as a person, as a Man, as a DJ, because they only address the symptoms and not the cause.
Being an AFC with game still makes one an AFC
You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig...
Ojete
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There's no need to memorize so many things... wow it's so painful!
Instead, just be a man, feel happy, and make sure you have the basics of good posture, walk confident, don't look at the floor, look always for eye contact 24/7, smile. The best way is to imagine always that you are a sexy mother****er and everything will sort out
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Instead, just be a man, feel happy, and make sure you have the basics of good posture, walk confident, don't look at the floor, look always for eye contact 24/7, smile. The best way is to imagine always that you are a sexy mother****er and everything will sort out
.I like Tyler D's points, of course they require practice, but almust everything in this world require that.
Set of rules and law's just like Taylers are important because, IF you have somekind of communication handicap (if u r shy or something else) and you are not so good to enter in contact with other people, you know the usually quiet guy who always are alone, you people do understand that telling this person to behave like a man (somebody plz give me a definition about bein a man) a be yourself it's like SPITTING him right in his face.
A set of law and rules instead teach him how to act and behave with other people, in the beginning he will fake (pretending he know all the stuff) but later when he practised thise rules enough then he can be spontaneus.
But not before!
I dont agree on all the rules, just like the hand movements, im part italian, and I am born and growt up in italy, and belive me we use a lot hand movements when we speak. They are a support to our verbal communication.
Maybe because Italy for centuries was divided by small city states and every city state developed theyr own dialect (the italian language are the non-vulgar Florentinian dialect). Perhaps when people travelled they used a lot the hand motions in the effort to overcome all the communication problems.
So Tylers advice about hand movements IMO at least for me are useless!
Anyway all this advice has of course to be integrated in your personalities....so it is fluid and looks natural.
Cheers
Set of rules and law's just like Taylers are important because, IF you have somekind of communication handicap (if u r shy or something else) and you are not so good to enter in contact with other people, you know the usually quiet guy who always are alone, you people do understand that telling this person to behave like a man (somebody plz give me a definition about bein a man) a be yourself it's like SPITTING him right in his face.
A set of law and rules instead teach him how to act and behave with other people, in the beginning he will fake (pretending he know all the stuff) but later when he practised thise rules enough then he can be spontaneus.
But not before!
I dont agree on all the rules, just like the hand movements, im part italian, and I am born and growt up in italy, and belive me we use a lot hand movements when we speak. They are a support to our verbal communication.
Maybe because Italy for centuries was divided by small city states and every city state developed theyr own dialect (the italian language are the non-vulgar Florentinian dialect). Perhaps when people travelled they used a lot the hand motions in the effort to overcome all the communication problems.
So Tylers advice about hand movements IMO at least for me are useless!
Anyway all this advice has of course to be integrated in your personalities....so it is fluid and looks natural.
Cheers
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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To me this list contradicts itself. Number 2 and 6 for example. Just m opinion. I like the example though. Thanks for posting.