Jariel, I generally agree with your philosophy (basically KISS), but I like to use a sports analogy. Say in basketball, for a jumpshot you at first think about flicking your wrist on a jumpshot, when to release the ball, feet shoulder width apart, etc....tons of things when you are PRACTICING. Then, in the game it just comes natural, but you need to put in lots of practice. I think that's the essense of this checklist. It is not saying you should constantly think about these things, but you should practice them whenever possible.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TylerDurden’s 25 Point Checklist on Basic AFC (ie DJ) Mistakes
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I see this thread has been resurrected.
Again, these 25 pts. only address the symptoms, and not the cause of those symptoms.
Address the cause, and the symptoms will be taken care of.
Example: You hurt your back, so you take pain medication.
The pain meds mask the pain (symptoms) but the cause of the pain still exists.
Instead of just trying to treat the symptoms with pain meds, one needs to address the cause of the pain, thru rest, physical therapy, back exercises, or even surgery if required.
Otherwise, the cause will still exist, even though the symptoms are being masked by the meds.
And this is why guys like TD are detrimental to your growth as a person, as a Man, as a DJ, because they only address the symptoms and not the cause.
Being an AFC with game still makes one an AFC
You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig...
Again, these 25 pts. only address the symptoms, and not the cause of those symptoms.
Address the cause, and the symptoms will be taken care of.
Example: You hurt your back, so you take pain medication.
The pain meds mask the pain (symptoms) but the cause of the pain still exists.
Instead of just trying to treat the symptoms with pain meds, one needs to address the cause of the pain, thru rest, physical therapy, back exercises, or even surgery if required.
Otherwise, the cause will still exist, even though the symptoms are being masked by the meds.
And this is why guys like TD are detrimental to your growth as a person, as a Man, as a DJ, because they only address the symptoms and not the cause.
Being an AFC with game still makes one an AFC
You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig...
Ojete
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There's no need to memorize so many things... wow it's so painful!
Instead, just be a man, feel happy, and make sure you have the basics of good posture, walk confident, don't look at the floor, look always for eye contact 24/7, smile. The best way is to imagine always that you are a sexy mother****er and everything will sort out
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Instead, just be a man, feel happy, and make sure you have the basics of good posture, walk confident, don't look at the floor, look always for eye contact 24/7, smile. The best way is to imagine always that you are a sexy mother****er and everything will sort out
.I like Tyler D's points, of course they require practice, but almust everything in this world require that.
Set of rules and law's just like Taylers are important because, IF you have somekind of communication handicap (if u r shy or something else) and you are not so good to enter in contact with other people, you know the usually quiet guy who always are alone, you people do understand that telling this person to behave like a man (somebody plz give me a definition about bein a man) a be yourself it's like SPITTING him right in his face.
A set of law and rules instead teach him how to act and behave with other people, in the beginning he will fake (pretending he know all the stuff) but later when he practised thise rules enough then he can be spontaneus.
But not before!
I dont agree on all the rules, just like the hand movements, im part italian, and I am born and growt up in italy, and belive me we use a lot hand movements when we speak. They are a support to our verbal communication.
Maybe because Italy for centuries was divided by small city states and every city state developed theyr own dialect (the italian language are the non-vulgar Florentinian dialect). Perhaps when people travelled they used a lot the hand motions in the effort to overcome all the communication problems.
So Tylers advice about hand movements IMO at least for me are useless!
Anyway all this advice has of course to be integrated in your personalities....so it is fluid and looks natural.
Cheers
Set of rules and law's just like Taylers are important because, IF you have somekind of communication handicap (if u r shy or something else) and you are not so good to enter in contact with other people, you know the usually quiet guy who always are alone, you people do understand that telling this person to behave like a man (somebody plz give me a definition about bein a man) a be yourself it's like SPITTING him right in his face.
A set of law and rules instead teach him how to act and behave with other people, in the beginning he will fake (pretending he know all the stuff) but later when he practised thise rules enough then he can be spontaneus.
But not before!
I dont agree on all the rules, just like the hand movements, im part italian, and I am born and growt up in italy, and belive me we use a lot hand movements when we speak. They are a support to our verbal communication.
Maybe because Italy for centuries was divided by small city states and every city state developed theyr own dialect (the italian language are the non-vulgar Florentinian dialect). Perhaps when people travelled they used a lot the hand motions in the effort to overcome all the communication problems.
So Tylers advice about hand movements IMO at least for me are useless!
Anyway all this advice has of course to be integrated in your personalities....so it is fluid and looks natural.
Cheers
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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To me this list contradicts itself. Number 2 and 6 for example. Just m opinion. I like the example though. Thanks for posting.