Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Txtin her to ask for a date?

Zaraza

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Alright well my girlfriend broke up with me last week, and im tryin to recover and ****. I havnt been out in the "game" or whatever you call it. Theres a girl in my class, shes cute, always gives me looks, gave me a lil wink, and ****. I was thinkin just ask her out for coffee or somethin.. what you guys think? should i txt her, ask her in person (we got a class together), call her?

since we kinda friends right now, what ideas you guys got? i thought coffee is kinda easy, just like start there... see what shes interested in and crap?

any ideas? where to go, what to do?

she seems like a closed up girl, and shes a virgin, but shes a cute one and wouldnt be bad to just spend time togehter as close friends.

once again, help me guys, with suggestions and ****.

yea it hurts. but pain makes us grow.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes, ask her out. Before you find yourself in the friend zone.

And of course, do it in person. It's much more confident. Txt/msg = lame.
 

Zaraza

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Coffee sound ok? just go to a starbucks get to know her? but thats a starting point where to after that?

ill ask her tommorow or friday, shes got lotta hw and ****. but ill still ask.
 

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Go somewhere calm, where you can get to know her better; like an art gallery, shopping, or a place you hang around often, hows that ?
 

Zaraza

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Sounds pretty good.I just joined a gym so im getting back into shape. Soon as I catch up in school ill give her a shot. Today i called a girl from years ago that i used to hang with (camp counslers) we were hella good friends, and i saw her in my phoen book and was like..hey what you been up to? you free lately...she said yea, so i just told her expect a call in the next 2 weeks and were goin out.

she was fine with it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Holland

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Just do it in real life. Small talk, then ask her out. Ask her number to set something up. Call her, meet her.
 

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Haha.

I pull up to a friend's house, and I show up, and when she comes to the door, I say,

"I want a hug, a kiss and coffee!"
and I have a date.
 

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Shezz said:
Call/Text/Ask in person - dosnt matter what you do ASLONG as you ACTUALLY do it!

Sarge On...
Yes nice to see we got real advice in here, what's good everyone?
 

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Something tells me a text message wouldnt be so great.
"u want fud sat. w/ me? ;)"
 

Zaraza

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cool, so i asked her in person, but she had plans with her a group of friends for a sleep over type deal. Whats my next step....just forget it with her, and just not say anythign or what bout a follow.

also, my friend called me, saying her friend is going downtown and visiting my city. Shes gona stay in a hotel with a free mini bar....she wants me to keep her company :-D...

gonna head there after work, hopefully shes still there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zaraza

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thats pretty interesting, seriously, you guys were right.. being single isnt bad. ahah. i guess i just forgot the advantages of it.

working out at the gym makes me feel good, then im getting back into getting girls and noticing them.

life is good right now.

haha
 

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good stuff man, askin gurls out is okay by text i guess, because then they can think about it, an you know they wna go on a date if they txt sayin yes!

If you ask them out in person they could feel awkward an say yes,but not on a txt message, unless sumone borrows her phone aan txts u!

I would do it in person though to be honest, its way cooler an you can do it in a few ways, like you can say it casually an be like 'ah come on itll be fun'
 

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Never looked at it that way JayUK

I give you props on your reasoning but texting requires much less skill then doing it in person
She will not respect you more if you text her, but inperson she probably will
 

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Zaraza said:
Coffee sound ok? just go to a starbucks get to know her? but thats a starting point where to after that?

ill ask her tommorow or friday, shes got lotta hw and ****. but ill still ask.
Coffee sounds perfectly fine. Good and relaxed idea...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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