"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Txtin her to ask for a date?

Zaraza

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Alright well my girlfriend broke up with me last week, and im tryin to recover and ****. I havnt been out in the "game" or whatever you call it. Theres a girl in my class, shes cute, always gives me looks, gave me a lil wink, and ****. I was thinkin just ask her out for coffee or somethin.. what you guys think? should i txt her, ask her in person (we got a class together), call her?

since we kinda friends right now, what ideas you guys got? i thought coffee is kinda easy, just like start there... see what shes interested in and crap?

any ideas? where to go, what to do?

she seems like a closed up girl, and shes a virgin, but shes a cute one and wouldnt be bad to just spend time togehter as close friends.

once again, help me guys, with suggestions and ****.

yea it hurts. but pain makes us grow.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yes, ask her out. Before you find yourself in the friend zone.

And of course, do it in person. It's much more confident. Txt/msg = lame.
 

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Coffee sound ok? just go to a starbucks get to know her? but thats a starting point where to after that?

ill ask her tommorow or friday, shes got lotta hw and ****. but ill still ask.
 

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Go somewhere calm, where you can get to know her better; like an art gallery, shopping, or a place you hang around often, hows that ?
 

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Sounds pretty good.I just joined a gym so im getting back into shape. Soon as I catch up in school ill give her a shot. Today i called a girl from years ago that i used to hang with (camp counslers) we were hella good friends, and i saw her in my phoen book and was like..hey what you been up to? you free lately...she said yea, so i just told her expect a call in the next 2 weeks and were goin out.

she was fine with it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just do it in real life. Small talk, then ask her out. Ask her number to set something up. Call her, meet her.
 

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Haha.

I pull up to a friend's house, and I show up, and when she comes to the door, I say,

"I want a hug, a kiss and coffee!"
and I have a date.
 

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Shezz said:
Call/Text/Ask in person - dosnt matter what you do ASLONG as you ACTUALLY do it!

Sarge On...
Yes nice to see we got real advice in here, what's good everyone?
 

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Something tells me a text message wouldnt be so great.
"u want fud sat. w/ me? ;)"
 

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cool, so i asked her in person, but she had plans with her a group of friends for a sleep over type deal. Whats my next step....just forget it with her, and just not say anythign or what bout a follow.

also, my friend called me, saying her friend is going downtown and visiting my city. Shes gona stay in a hotel with a free mini bar....she wants me to keep her company :-D...

gonna head there after work, hopefully shes still there.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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thats pretty interesting, seriously, you guys were right.. being single isnt bad. ahah. i guess i just forgot the advantages of it.

working out at the gym makes me feel good, then im getting back into getting girls and noticing them.

life is good right now.

haha
 

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good stuff man, askin gurls out is okay by text i guess, because then they can think about it, an you know they wna go on a date if they txt sayin yes!

If you ask them out in person they could feel awkward an say yes,but not on a txt message, unless sumone borrows her phone aan txts u!

I would do it in person though to be honest, its way cooler an you can do it in a few ways, like you can say it casually an be like 'ah come on itll be fun'
 

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Never looked at it that way JayUK

I give you props on your reasoning but texting requires much less skill then doing it in person
She will not respect you more if you text her, but inperson she probably will
 

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Zaraza said:
Coffee sound ok? just go to a starbucks get to know her? but thats a starting point where to after that?

ill ask her tommorow or friday, shes got lotta hw and ****. but ill still ask.
Coffee sounds perfectly fine. Good and relaxed idea...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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