"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WTF U beating around the bush.... NOW you need to be direct... she wont text you back now bcuz she will feel NEEDY...

Arrange a date with her... Reframe urselfff
 

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Your kissing her ass in those texts man... texting is ALL about pretending they're hitting on you, arousing their attention then replying at super random intervals... one thing you must remain conscious of is leaving an opening somewhere for them to find a reason to text back without seeming like their chasing you themselves, women harbour the fantasy that they are letting you into their reality so don't blow it by sending closed and uninteresting texts, at the same time you have always DHV.

I find asking questions in texts is FAR needier than in person, always try to make statements if possible.
 

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lol, so I guess I should just call her direct and ask her out.

Urgh, I really hate doing this...I know im being afc about it!..its just I know how easily it can fvck up if I try calling her and she doesn't answer
 

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I have a better idea for you :)

Go out with her and your friend again, then isolate her from there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yeah man, y'see thats what I was thinking. You see her friend is going out with my best friend, so they are a couple, and then it was me and her last time..so I was thinking of trying something similar again :)

Thanks
 

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Good luck bro :D
 

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I do not believe in the waiting bs for text messaging... different rules apply. I would text her something funny/****y/sexual comedy every now and then. Try to make it something she has to reply to, then start a small convo with her. Interrupt the convo and tell you you have to go, and to call you later. If she is truely interested, she will call. This works almost every time for me. Then when she calls you later ask her out. If she doesnt call, dont talk to her any more, period, just stop. This will prove more to you about her - if she did like you and just didnt call, she will flip out about you ignoring her. If she didnt like you, she will not talk to you anymore and you didnt have to waste your time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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