"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dice

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wow so i was hangin with my gf of two weeks tonight and we go to a bar where she tells me not to act like we're together bc her ex's friends hang out there and she said she "wanted to avoid drama since she got with me so quickly after breaking it off w him", then in there she introduces me to them and when they left they say somethin like, "we'll tell dave his gf says hi".. i was like wtf.. and so they leave and i bring it up and she says they were just trying to psych me out and stand up for their boy. Who do i believe and how do i handle this ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sorry dude, you've been played. From the sound of things, you're very much an AFC. Quit it, it won't get you what you want.
Invite her over to your place, or some other place where you can have a fun time with her. Push the issue physically, if you have the skills for it. If not, don't even bother with her any more. She'll just use you again as backup person for attention when her main squeeze is unavailable. And trust me, you'll never get what you want if that happens.
 

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Originally posted by dice
wow so i was hangin with my gf of two weeks tonight and we go to a bar where she tells me not to act like we're together bc her ex's friends hang out there and she said she "wanted to avoid drama since she got with me so quickly after breaking it off w him", then in there she introduces me to them and when they left they say somethin like, "we'll tell dave his gf says hi".. i was like wtf.. and so they leave and i bring it up and she says they were just trying to psych me out and stand up for their boy. Who do i believe and how do i handle this ?
its simple. if a girl is sketchy, cheat on her.
 

dice

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y do u call me afc? should i have been like no f u im leaving? cuz i made it clear to her i wasnt cool with it i called it dumb but i just ended up saying f it cuz i wanted to drink thats why i didnt talk the entire time. And yah i've been gettin #'s since i found out about this i dont worry about being faithful anymore.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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