"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dice

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wow so i was hangin with my gf of two weeks tonight and we go to a bar where she tells me not to act like we're together bc her ex's friends hang out there and she said she "wanted to avoid drama since she got with me so quickly after breaking it off w him", then in there she introduces me to them and when they left they say somethin like, "we'll tell dave his gf says hi".. i was like wtf.. and so they leave and i bring it up and she says they were just trying to psych me out and stand up for their boy. Who do i believe and how do i handle this ?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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abcd_z

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Sorry dude, you've been played. From the sound of things, you're very much an AFC. Quit it, it won't get you what you want.
Invite her over to your place, or some other place where you can have a fun time with her. Push the issue physically, if you have the skills for it. If not, don't even bother with her any more. She'll just use you again as backup person for attention when her main squeeze is unavailable. And trust me, you'll never get what you want if that happens.
 

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Originally posted by dice
wow so i was hangin with my gf of two weeks tonight and we go to a bar where she tells me not to act like we're together bc her ex's friends hang out there and she said she "wanted to avoid drama since she got with me so quickly after breaking it off w him", then in there she introduces me to them and when they left they say somethin like, "we'll tell dave his gf says hi".. i was like wtf.. and so they leave and i bring it up and she says they were just trying to psych me out and stand up for their boy. Who do i believe and how do i handle this ?
its simple. if a girl is sketchy, cheat on her.
 

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y do u call me afc? should i have been like no f u im leaving? cuz i made it clear to her i wasnt cool with it i called it dumb but i just ended up saying f it cuz i wanted to drink thats why i didnt talk the entire time. And yah i've been gettin #'s since i found out about this i dont worry about being faithful anymore.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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