"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Two SIMPLE directions in life

logicallefty

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Did anyone ever stop and think that the paths through life in all aspects of life come down to two basic directions.

POSITIVE DIRECTION: keeping the emotion out of it and/or striving for long term satisfaction

NEGATIVE DIRECTION: putting emotion into it and/or striving for short term satisfaction


OK, now for some examples we can all relate to:

-If I let emotion rule me and call her 10x a day, short term satisfaction is achieved, but long term satisfaction is not when she LJBFs me eventually
-If I kill the emotion and call her 1-2x a week instead, no short term satisfaction cuz I really want to talk to her, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I end up b***ing her

-If I seek short term satisfaction by eating all this crap food and not going to the gym, long term I get fat and don't end up as happy and strong of a person
-If I sacrifice the food and hit the gym, no short term satisfaction, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I do become the man that I want to be physically

-If I let emotion rule me and tell my boss he is a jerk, short term satisfaction is achieved, but long term satisfaction is not when he fires my a$$ or overlooks me for that next promotion
-If I kill the emotion and think of a way to tell my boss I don't agree with him without calling him a jerk, short term I won't feel as good, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I keep my job and even gain a little more respect from the boss


Apply this to something you are thinking of right now, anything, and let's see if it applies... I bet it will..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Zerix

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Great post man.

This isn't anything special or extraordinary. These are just some small things that we need to be reminded of constantly.

Thanks for that reminder :)
 

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Where did you get this from?

I agree completely. In class I assess clients mental state by assigning positive or negative to their cognitive functions. A "positive" sign is a readily observable sign with immediate consequences, a "negative" sign is lacking observable signs with little or no consequence.
 

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Now let me give my interpretation of this... I will develop what you started.

There are 2 directions in live, specifically for us, men. Before I explain, let me state the obvious, that many times things turn out not the way that we want them. At times we don't end up doing what we want to, or are percieved not in the way that we want to be percieved... Good news is that we can do something about it. Bad news... well, its the same news. No body else will be able to fix it for us lol.

The good direction and the bad direction. The right direction is the OU*WARD direction, the mindset of the man, the penetrator, the actor, the effector. One who is ou*wardly focused, who concentrates on what he wants. There are no "voids" in his life, he is a complete man.

The bad direction is the INWARD direction. That is if you feel like u have a void, or voids in your life, that u wish to be filled by outside factors.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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