"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Two SIMPLE directions in life

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Did anyone ever stop and think that the paths through life in all aspects of life come down to two basic directions.

POSITIVE DIRECTION: keeping the emotion out of it and/or striving for long term satisfaction

NEGATIVE DIRECTION: putting emotion into it and/or striving for short term satisfaction


OK, now for some examples we can all relate to:

-If I let emotion rule me and call her 10x a day, short term satisfaction is achieved, but long term satisfaction is not when she LJBFs me eventually
-If I kill the emotion and call her 1-2x a week instead, no short term satisfaction cuz I really want to talk to her, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I end up b***ing her

-If I seek short term satisfaction by eating all this crap food and not going to the gym, long term I get fat and don't end up as happy and strong of a person
-If I sacrifice the food and hit the gym, no short term satisfaction, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I do become the man that I want to be physically

-If I let emotion rule me and tell my boss he is a jerk, short term satisfaction is achieved, but long term satisfaction is not when he fires my a$$ or overlooks me for that next promotion
-If I kill the emotion and think of a way to tell my boss I don't agree with him without calling him a jerk, short term I won't feel as good, but long term satisfaction is achieved when I keep my job and even gain a little more respect from the boss


Apply this to something you are thinking of right now, anything, and let's see if it applies... I bet it will..
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Zerix

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Great post man.

This isn't anything special or extraordinary. These are just some small things that we need to be reminded of constantly.

Thanks for that reminder :)
 

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Where did you get this from?

I agree completely. In class I assess clients mental state by assigning positive or negative to their cognitive functions. A "positive" sign is a readily observable sign with immediate consequences, a "negative" sign is lacking observable signs with little or no consequence.
 

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Now let me give my interpretation of this... I will develop what you started.

There are 2 directions in live, specifically for us, men. Before I explain, let me state the obvious, that many times things turn out not the way that we want them. At times we don't end up doing what we want to, or are percieved not in the way that we want to be percieved... Good news is that we can do something about it. Bad news... well, its the same news. No body else will be able to fix it for us lol.

The good direction and the bad direction. The right direction is the OU*WARD direction, the mindset of the man, the penetrator, the actor, the effector. One who is ou*wardly focused, who concentrates on what he wants. There are no "voids" in his life, he is a complete man.

The bad direction is the INWARD direction. That is if you feel like u have a void, or voids in your life, that u wish to be filled by outside factors.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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