Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Two methods to become a better speaker... Have you guys ever attempted them?

Shivastorm_88

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My first choice is to join a Toastmaster club, which is an orginzation all about public speaking

My second choice is to take a few improvisation classes

Opinions on either?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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youngmack

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I tried to join a toastmaster but that specific club said that i had to be 18 or older. Do you know if you have to be 18+ for all other clubs?

But i do think toastmaster is the best option right now
 

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wow, I had no idea public speaking was adults only....... :woo:
 

youngmack

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Asterisk said:
wow, I had no idea public speaking was adults only....... :woo:
Yeah bro this sh1t sucks. and i just called and they said ALL toastmasters clubs you have to be 18+. WTF is that? Now i dont know how am i gona get over this fear of public speaking man
 

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I was in speech and debate in highschool. I had pee-your-pants stage fright and I mumbled bad, so I was pretty awful and the coach knew I was dead weight, but I did it for two years.

What helped me get over the fear of public speaking was singing at open mics with my guitar. Now I can talk to 10,000 people if I wanted to. I think I discovered my inner attention *****.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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btownbuck2012

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stand up comedy.

I've done stand up comedy 10 times in my life. 5 times in Chicago, two times in South Bend, Indiana, 2 times in Indianapolis, and once in Washington, DC.

It is the rawest form of entertainment. Just a dude and a mic. I plan to pursue stand up comedy once I can save up enough cash to move back out to NYC.

As far as becoming a better public speaker, it's the ballsiest thing to try. In fact, it's so nerve wracking that ANYONE whom I found out has ever tried stand up at LEAST 1 time, just once, has my utmost respect forever.

Now a-lot of you are probably thinking "F*CK THAT" that would be too hard.

Well guess what, the reason I've pursued stand up comedy is because of how shy and introverted I was growing up. I've always been fascinated with it, but it's almost like since I was so bad at it growing up, I'm going to prove to myself that I can be one of the best at it. IF that makes sense...
 

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I've always wanted to try toastmasters, has anyone ever been?
 
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