"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Two methods to become a better speaker... Have you guys ever attempted them?

Shivastorm_88

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My first choice is to join a Toastmaster club, which is an orginzation all about public speaking

My second choice is to take a few improvisation classes

Opinions on either?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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youngmack

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I tried to join a toastmaster but that specific club said that i had to be 18 or older. Do you know if you have to be 18+ for all other clubs?

But i do think toastmaster is the best option right now
 

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wow, I had no idea public speaking was adults only....... :woo:
 

youngmack

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Asterisk said:
wow, I had no idea public speaking was adults only....... :woo:
Yeah bro this sh1t sucks. and i just called and they said ALL toastmasters clubs you have to be 18+. WTF is that? Now i dont know how am i gona get over this fear of public speaking man
 

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I was in speech and debate in highschool. I had pee-your-pants stage fright and I mumbled bad, so I was pretty awful and the coach knew I was dead weight, but I did it for two years.

What helped me get over the fear of public speaking was singing at open mics with my guitar. Now I can talk to 10,000 people if I wanted to. I think I discovered my inner attention *****.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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btownbuck2012

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stand up comedy.

I've done stand up comedy 10 times in my life. 5 times in Chicago, two times in South Bend, Indiana, 2 times in Indianapolis, and once in Washington, DC.

It is the rawest form of entertainment. Just a dude and a mic. I plan to pursue stand up comedy once I can save up enough cash to move back out to NYC.

As far as becoming a better public speaker, it's the ballsiest thing to try. In fact, it's so nerve wracking that ANYONE whom I found out has ever tried stand up at LEAST 1 time, just once, has my utmost respect forever.

Now a-lot of you are probably thinking "F*CK THAT" that would be too hard.

Well guess what, the reason I've pursued stand up comedy is because of how shy and introverted I was growing up. I've always been fascinated with it, but it's almost like since I was so bad at it growing up, I'm going to prove to myself that I can be one of the best at it. IF that makes sense...
 

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I've always wanted to try toastmasters, has anyone ever been?
 
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