Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
no...! no way! but...! but that's too simple!Skilla_Staz said:how about you straight up ask the friend for her own number?
i can't because i only met her once and i have no idea how to contact her. i called that girl (the one i'm not interested in) and tried to get into the friendzone so she'd leave me alone but no matter what i say 1, she wouldn't back off and 2, she won't give me her friend's contact info (she says she'll e-mail it to me and its been 2 days since i first called her) plus i'm pretty sure she knows i like her friend.Skilla_Staz said:how about you straight up ask the friend for her own number?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
coolsta0000 said:k, so here's the deal, there's two girls that are good friends (with each other not me) and that like me. i have a number but its the girl's who i don't like. how should i go about asking her for her friend's number?
Exactly; There was a post once about you should make your gf's freinds like you. By asking her # from her freind you dug you grave.True Wolf said:You're screwed.
Mistake 1: You didn't get the right number in the first place
Mistake 2: You asked the friend for the others number. Allow me to assure you, when you asked the girl who likes you for the other girls number this is how it went in her head: "He likes her and not me!? How dare him! I'm not helping him get with her! In fact i'll ruin any chance he had with her!" and then she called up her friend, and told her that you asked for her number because you were too shy to ask her or some **** and they'll laugh about it.
Yeah, maybe i'm wrong, but it's pretty damn likely. Remember, girls are self centered attention mongers and they would rather bite the bullet than put another girl in the spot light. It's just the way it is.
Mistake 3: You haven't moved on yet. This is an error because you are allowing yourself to be at their mercy. You hang in limbo, going crazy, waiting for some kind of answer, yet she probably isn't even thinking about it or you. Sad truth, but accept it and move on.
The only alternative to try is to try and hangout with the two of them again as someone suggested and get her number from her directly. Much more smooth. You could pull this one out of the crapper by doing so. Otherwise, move on.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Skilla_Staz said:how about you straight up ask the friend for her own number?