"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As I finished playing out a fantasy role in my head I kind of side-stepped back into reality, then imagined what I would call a "real" situation. I noticed between the two that in the situations as I would like to recall them (fantasies), I had extreme confidence, to the point where I could care less what was going on with the girl, I was just concentrating on what was going on and she was too.

But when moments like these really come to be, I'm lacking that confidence, and in fact have a fear of two things: What am I going to say, and if I get past the 'hello,' what are we going to talk about? And then if I **** up, or if we get one of those awkward silences, what are the people around me gonna think of me?

Please help me!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have similar problems. In my mind, I'm the ultimate shvit. But can't turn that into reality.
 
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The first step is to let go of reality and stop caring.

Stop caring what others think of you.

Stop thinking about how your words come off to others.

When you drop this, you'll find that being your innerself isn't so hard after all. So many men are caught up in what they "want to be", but don't realize that the only thing stopping them is themselves. Their fear of what others think is the ROOT of these problems.

Easier said than done and trust me it takes time. What you imagine yourself being is REALLY what you could be. The only thing blocking it is your fear of criticism and negative thoughts from the outside world.
 
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