Two Fears

[Love]

As I finished playing out a fantasy role in my head I kind of side-stepped back into reality, then imagined what I would call a "real" situation. I noticed between the two that in the situations as I would like to recall them (fantasies), I had extreme confidence, to the point where I could care less what was going on with the girl, I was just concentrating on what was going on and she was too.

But when moments like these really come to be, I'm lacking that confidence, and in fact have a fear of two things: What am I going to say, and if I get past the 'hello,' what are we going to talk about? And then if I **** up, or if we get one of those awkward silences, what are the people around me gonna think of me?

Please help me!

 

[ItsOnNow]

I have similar problems. In my mind, I'm the ultimate shvit. But can't turn that into reality.

 

[WC2]

The first step is to let go of reality and stop caring.

Stop caring what others think of you.

Stop thinking about how your words come off to others.

When you drop this, you'll find that being your innerself isn't so hard after all. So many men are caught up in what they "want to be", but don't realize that the only thing stopping them is themselves. Their fear of what others think is the ROOT of these problems.

Easier said than done and trust me it takes time. What you imagine yourself being is REALLY what you could be. The only thing blocking it is your fear of criticism and negative thoughts from the outside world.