Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why worry about what random females say? If some girl ever said "You're short, fat and bald" I'd simply laugh in their face and tell them: I've got something 5ft, fat with a nice bald head swinging for you.Mike32ct said:I'm not surprised. They say some pretty nasty shyte about balding guys too. Women are more shallow than men could ever be. I don't hate women, but I want to drive the shallow point home to guys so they know what they are dealing with.
Some guys will say, well if you are short or balding or ugly or whatever, make more money. Yeah that certainly helps. But it also further underscores women's shallowness because it means that guy has to pay an "ugly tax/penalty" in the form of more $.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.