"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Turning the tables...

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Alright, so, when I went home last week, I decided to look an ex up and see what she was doing. We ended up going to the movies, but she brought a friend along (not totally unexpected, but unfortunate).

What would you guys say to doing the same thing, when/if we do something together? Inviting one of my friends along? As a fan of irony, I think it'd be good for a chuckle, at the very least. But what might be the consequences?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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uh, she's your ex and she brought along a friend as a block against you. you should have nothing to do with your ex as she has clearly (with her friend) has made it with you.

wtf are you doing, use your brains to calculate this.
 

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Originally posted by Dominus
Alright, so, when I went home last week, I decided to look an ex up and see what she was doing. We ended up going to the movies, but she brought a friend along (not totally unexpected, but unfortunate).

What would you guys say to doing the same thing, when/if we do something together? Inviting one of my friends along? As a fan of irony, I think it'd be good for a chuckle, at the very least. But what might be the consequences?
Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
 

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Re: Re: Turning the tables...

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
You have had a good teacher!
 

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Re: Re: Turning the tables...

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
I'm not trying to get revenge, I'm playing her game, sending as many mixed signals as possible.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Go out tonight and hit on 10 women..and never talk to your X gf again!
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
Go out tonight and hit on 10 women..and never talk to your X gf again!
Ok, I'm so ****ing sick of that. If it were that easy, I wouldn't be still interested in her. Hitting on 10 women, thats easy. But each one, I think "gee, wouldn't it be great if it were her." I've slept with other girls and thought the same thing.

I've got the worst ****ing case of oneitis, and I'm not nearly as ashamed as I thought I'd be.

On the plus side, it makes it a hell of a lot easier for me to hit on other girls, since I don't really care about the consequences nearly as much, since I have no real deep interest in them at all.
 

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Girls bring friends with when they are not 100% sure about you. You have not built up enough rapport for her to go alone, its the same when they need the bathroom they will only take certain girl friends in their wiff them, some girls they wont because of the rapport that exists. Their is nothing wrong with you and her bringing friends along, just make the time with her count.
 

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Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Girls bring friends with when they are not 100% sure about you. You have not built up enough rapport for her to go alone, its the same when they need the bathroom they will only take certain girl friends in their wiff them, some girls they wont because of the rapport that exists. Their is nothing wrong with you and her bringing friends along, just make the time with her count.
Thats the opinion that other people (and I) had, but I wanted to hear it from someone here.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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It's an ex... so i mean how coud there really be any concequences?
 

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Originally posted by PRMoon
It's an ex... so i mean how coud there really be any concequences?
Not sure what you mean there. Are you saying nothing could happen? Or that I've got nothing to lose?
 

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Survey says

Not sure what you mean there. Are you saying nothing could happen? Or that I've got nothing to lose?
Both... Nothing BAD could happen becuase you're just friends now right? Or at least that's the way she's trying to take it. And if she shows up alone and you have friends, what do you really have to lose? She's an ex meaning you've tried it before and it didn't work out. Will you really miss seconds that much?

Bring some friends who cares there are tons of girls in the world. If you want to play silly social games with her go ahead! I mean they're fun... just to see what happens... well I get a kick out of it anyway.
 
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