Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Turning the tables...

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Alright, so, when I went home last week, I decided to look an ex up and see what she was doing. We ended up going to the movies, but she brought a friend along (not totally unexpected, but unfortunate).

What would you guys say to doing the same thing, when/if we do something together? Inviting one of my friends along? As a fan of irony, I think it'd be good for a chuckle, at the very least. But what might be the consequences?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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uh, she's your ex and she brought along a friend as a block against you. you should have nothing to do with your ex as she has clearly (with her friend) has made it with you.

wtf are you doing, use your brains to calculate this.
 
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Originally posted by Dominus
Alright, so, when I went home last week, I decided to look an ex up and see what she was doing. We ended up going to the movies, but she brought a friend along (not totally unexpected, but unfortunate).

What would you guys say to doing the same thing, when/if we do something together? Inviting one of my friends along? As a fan of irony, I think it'd be good for a chuckle, at the very least. But what might be the consequences?
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Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
 
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Re: Re: Turning the tables...

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
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You have had a good teacher!
 
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Re: Re: Turning the tables...

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Living in the past to get revenge is like driving the opposite direction to beat your opponent to the finish line
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I'm not trying to get revenge, I'm playing her game, sending as many mixed signals as possible.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Go out tonight and hit on 10 women..and never talk to your X gf again!
 
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Originally posted by frivolousz21
Go out tonight and hit on 10 women..and never talk to your X gf again!
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Ok, I'm so ****ing sick of that. If it were that easy, I wouldn't be still interested in her. Hitting on 10 women, thats easy. But each one, I think "gee, wouldn't it be great if it were her." I've slept with other girls and thought the same thing.

I've got the worst ****ing case of oneitis, and I'm not nearly as ashamed as I thought I'd be.

On the plus side, it makes it a hell of a lot easier for me to hit on other girls, since I don't really care about the consequences nearly as much, since I have no real deep interest in them at all.
 
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Girls bring friends with when they are not 100% sure about you. You have not built up enough rapport for her to go alone, its the same when they need the bathroom they will only take certain girl friends in their wiff them, some girls they wont because of the rapport that exists. Their is nothing wrong with you and her bringing friends along, just make the time with her count.
 
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Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Girls bring friends with when they are not 100% sure about you. You have not built up enough rapport for her to go alone, its the same when they need the bathroom they will only take certain girl friends in their wiff them, some girls they wont because of the rapport that exists. Their is nothing wrong with you and her bringing friends along, just make the time with her count.
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Thats the opinion that other people (and I) had, but I wanted to hear it from someone here.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's an ex... so i mean how coud there really be any concequences?
 
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It's an ex... so i mean how coud there really be any concequences?
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Not sure what you mean there. Are you saying nothing could happen? Or that I've got nothing to lose?
 
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Survey says

Not sure what you mean there. Are you saying nothing could happen? Or that I've got nothing to lose?
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Both... Nothing BAD could happen becuase you're just friends now right? Or at least that's the way she's trying to take it. And if she shows up alone and you have friends, what do you really have to lose? She's an ex meaning you've tried it before and it didn't work out. Will you really miss seconds that much?

Bring some friends who cares there are tons of girls in the world. If you want to play silly social games with her go ahead! I mean they're fun... just to see what happens... well I get a kick out of it anyway.
 
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