Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Turning ex to a fb

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Long story short - we broke up over a year ago. NC for over 10 months or so. Not butthurt about sh1t anymore. Got back in touch recently - exchanged a few messages on fb.

Point being that I aint gonna be seeing her for the next few months. And when I do I wanna bang her a few times, for old times sake.

I was thinking if I continue to be in touch with her, I should keep it short, not ask too many questions about her, and implicitly show her that things are great right now.

Thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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betheman

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try being honest with her, ..."Im not looking for anything serious or heavy at the moment, still too young. we were good in bed though, we should follow that up"

you could get shot down in flames but my ex suggested this to me last weekend, I was devastated...not!

thing is your ex might be thinking the same thing, the fact you can appear to detatch your emotions shows confidence also that she has lost that bit of you, quite intriguing. I say go for it...providing you can handle se x only and not get onitis all over again
 

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It's difficult to do. I've kind of done it.

I broke up with this girl for nearly a year and contacted her because the sex was good, I was honest and direct that I didn't want a relationship or anything serious and she asked "so **** buddies" and I said "yes" and she agreed to it.

The problem is I can tell she has developed more feelings which shouldn't have been a surprise and sends me alot of messages. BUT I see her like every 2 weeks or so and have sex with her when I want for like the last 6 months or so and she hasn't complained.

But seeing she is your ex she will probably develop feelings again as this girl has for me. Also be careful if you are just her FB not to develop feelings for her as you could get hurt.
 

seethehoop

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Fb's don't work in my experience, tried 3 times. First time I got too involved, 2ND time she did, now the 3rd is the same girl from the 1st time and we are both getting too involved, her more than me though so at moment I'm happy playing it out.
 

pdx1138

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seethehoop said:
Fb's don't work in my experience, tried 3 times. First time I got too involved, 2ND time she did, now the 3rd is the same girl from the 1st time and we are both getting too involved, her more than me though so at moment I'm happy playing it out.
it usually does end up lopsided like that for one of them.

I managed to turn an ex into an FB for a year til I got bored of her.

not sure I'd do that again. plenty of women out there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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