"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Turning AFC/getting dumped, then getting her back

poohead

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who here has dated someone, turned AFC, got dumped -- and then managed to turn it around somehow and gotten back with her?

this is a hypothetical question unrelated to my current situation. just wanted to see if this has ever happened, and what circumstances were involved. i'm guessing a lot of time has to go by.

any stories?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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aix237

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i used to be a total afc with my ex. she broke up with me like 2-3 times. the first time i told her to fvck her self and she aint sh!t i could pull a lot better etc. we didnt talk for like 2 days then we got back together. the second time i tried to talk to her cuase she wanted space. i tried a tiny bit then walked away. then we moved in together. the third time i said fvck it and didnt even try and moved out. basically you gotta just show that you would try but then just walk away shouldnt be too long. if its taken too long then say decide cause i dont want it like this and im leaving to someone else then then actually leave
 

Desdinova

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who here has dated someone, turned AFC, got dumped -- and then managed to turn it around somehow and gotten back with her?
I had the option of having her back, but I turned it down. She wanted to come back after a year. If you learn anything from your past, you learn that it's not fvcking worth it.
 

Burningblue

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If you find another beautiful woman to be with and she finds out, it will make her want you. You need to appear happy and excited about your new realtionship too though. In talking to female friends, this seems to be the main reason they take guys back. Of course, this creates a paradox. Why take her back if you have replaced her?
 
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