I'm used to turning friends into lovers as I meet most of my girlfriends and dates via my social circles and usually start out being friends. So this tip comes from many experiences, some positive, some negative, some observations of other people and some where I've been the converted friend.
When turning a friend into a lover the basic goal is to let her feel what it would be like to be your lover without startling her. Think of the process like a volume slider marked "friend" and "lover". If you suddenly turn it up it's going to shock her and send her running. Explicitly stating your intentions, feelings or hopes, or making any sudden moves on your friend is like turning the volume blaring. She's on the spot, unprepared and uncomfortable, and she's going to flee. Whereas increasing the volume gradually will allow her to grow more accustomed to the changes.
In order to achieve this you need to take subtle steps. Work on getting physically closer to her: put your arm round her from time to time, rest your head on her shoulder, touch her more during conversations and let her sample your physical affection. Talk intimately to her, pay her a few subtle compliments and flirt with her. Take her out on date-like activities, and gradually start treating her more like a girlfriend, until you sense that she's ready for that first kiss. (If you've really built the tension, you may even feel her knees buckle).
The speed at which you progress is down to how she reciprocates. Does she lean into you when you put your arm round her? Does she flirt back? Does she initiate any touching? Above all nothing should feel forced; you should get a natural sense of the tension building. Just be patient and keep your actions subtle and rare enough to leave her wondering if you're really interested or just playing with her. Don't confirm anything!
Now if you're looking for a quick lay with a friend, disregard this tip. It's not going to help. But if you see a friend as a potential longterm lover, this should work to your advantage.
When turning a friend into a lover the basic goal is to let her feel what it would be like to be your lover without startling her. Think of the process like a volume slider marked "friend" and "lover". If you suddenly turn it up it's going to shock her and send her running. Explicitly stating your intentions, feelings or hopes, or making any sudden moves on your friend is like turning the volume blaring. She's on the spot, unprepared and uncomfortable, and she's going to flee. Whereas increasing the volume gradually will allow her to grow more accustomed to the changes.
In order to achieve this you need to take subtle steps. Work on getting physically closer to her: put your arm round her from time to time, rest your head on her shoulder, touch her more during conversations and let her sample your physical affection. Talk intimately to her, pay her a few subtle compliments and flirt with her. Take her out on date-like activities, and gradually start treating her more like a girlfriend, until you sense that she's ready for that first kiss. (If you've really built the tension, you may even feel her knees buckle).
The speed at which you progress is down to how she reciprocates. Does she lean into you when you put your arm round her? Does she flirt back? Does she initiate any touching? Above all nothing should feel forced; you should get a natural sense of the tension building. Just be patient and keep your actions subtle and rare enough to leave her wondering if you're really interested or just playing with her. Don't confirm anything!
Now if you're looking for a quick lay with a friend, disregard this tip. It's not going to help. But if you see a friend as a potential longterm lover, this should work to your advantage.
