"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Turned down sex
- Thread starter The Sperminator
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
Once they realize they're going to have sex with you, they take on that submissive roll and leave it in the hands of the guy. It's his responsibility.visions said:
MikeOck
Don Juan
BTW: I've turned down sex with probably more women than I've had sex with, for some reason women I'm not interested in like to proposition me. I've even turned down ffm three-ways more than once. F#ck it, I have standards and I value my self respect more than sex (though I do love sex).
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The Sperminator
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She did not want to wait I did offer that.
Aristippus
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Sometimes you're better off not "sealing the deal", as you put it. The date could have ended 10,000 times worse. Possible pregnancy with a screaming brat to raise for 20 years or an STD. I'd say not "sealing the deal" is mild compared to the potentially disastrous consequences of unprotected sex with someone you barely know.pdx1138 said:
p.s. As an added bonus, if you wind up HATING her later and you have a child together, you still get the pleasure of dealing with her and giving her a large chunk of your income! No thanks.
to make my point:
I had a situation this last week where I wasn't prepared and didn't have a condom....i turned the girl down but was able to keep it classy and maintain convo. Turns out she had an STD.....
stupid ***** wasn't even going to say anything until she realized I had some F*ckin' morals and rules for my game. You can never be too careful these days.....definitely cutting that girl loose but it made me realize how important it is to stick to what you feel is right.
..you don't always have to fvck to win the game.