"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Turned down sex
- Thread starter The Sperminator
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
Once they realize they're going to have sex with you, they take on that submissive roll and leave it in the hands of the guy. It's his responsibility.visions said:
MikeOck
Don Juan
BTW: I've turned down sex with probably more women than I've had sex with, for some reason women I'm not interested in like to proposition me. I've even turned down ffm three-ways more than once. F#ck it, I have standards and I value my self respect more than sex (though I do love sex).
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The Sperminator
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She did not want to wait I did offer that.
Aristippus
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Sometimes you're better off not "sealing the deal", as you put it. The date could have ended 10,000 times worse. Possible pregnancy with a screaming brat to raise for 20 years or an STD. I'd say not "sealing the deal" is mild compared to the potentially disastrous consequences of unprotected sex with someone you barely know.pdx1138 said:
p.s. As an added bonus, if you wind up HATING her later and you have a child together, you still get the pleasure of dealing with her and giving her a large chunk of your income! No thanks.
to make my point:
I had a situation this last week where I wasn't prepared and didn't have a condom....i turned the girl down but was able to keep it classy and maintain convo. Turns out she had an STD.....
stupid ***** wasn't even going to say anything until she realized I had some F*ckin' morals and rules for my game. You can never be too careful these days.....definitely cutting that girl loose but it made me realize how important it is to stick to what you feel is right.
..you don't always have to fvck to win the game.