Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Turned down sex
- Thread starter The Sperminator
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
Once they realize they're going to have sex with you, they take on that submissive roll and leave it in the hands of the guy. It's his responsibility.visions said:
MikeOck
Don Juan
BTW: I've turned down sex with probably more women than I've had sex with, for some reason women I'm not interested in like to proposition me. I've even turned down ffm three-ways more than once. F#ck it, I have standards and I value my self respect more than sex (though I do love sex).
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Sperminator
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She did not want to wait I did offer that.
Aristippus
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Sometimes you're better off not "sealing the deal", as you put it. The date could have ended 10,000 times worse. Possible pregnancy with a screaming brat to raise for 20 years or an STD. I'd say not "sealing the deal" is mild compared to the potentially disastrous consequences of unprotected sex with someone you barely know.pdx1138 said:
p.s. As an added bonus, if you wind up HATING her later and you have a child together, you still get the pleasure of dealing with her and giving her a large chunk of your income! No thanks.
to make my point:
I had a situation this last week where I wasn't prepared and didn't have a condom....i turned the girl down but was able to keep it classy and maintain convo. Turns out she had an STD.....
stupid ***** wasn't even going to say anything until she realized I had some F*ckin' morals and rules for my game. You can never be too careful these days.....definitely cutting that girl loose but it made me realize how important it is to stick to what you feel is right.
..you don't always have to fvck to win the game.