"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Turned a lesbian straight... but..

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I've known Girl X for about a year, but we never really talked, due to her quiet nature and that she was my friend's ex-girlfriend. Recently, we've started to talk a little, as we're in the same class.

One fateful day, we finished our lessons and i said if she wants to accompany me for dinner, she can come along. She did, and we went to a mall near our school. I ate, while she just had a drink as she wasn't that hungry. Then, we proceeded to walk around and ended up in the library. I took out my iPod and we watched "How I Met Your Mother" together. She loved it, and i was putting my hands around her while we did. That was pretty much it, and she went back afterwards. This day basically brought us closer together.

We had no school the day after, so i asked her what time she'd finish working, and if she wants to join me for dinner this time. She turned up and we had dinner, before sitting down at a playground to chill. After much escalation and flirting, we were cuddling and i got her touching my hands. I kissed her a few times on the cheek, and a couple were on the lips. She did not kiss me, though. :nono:

I was talking and playfully touched her chest, and she took my hand away and held it instead. This goes on till' past midnight, and we were having school the next morning. I told her how crazy it would be for our classmates to see us together like this. She said softly, "We're not together", and sounded in doubt of the situation. Well, we went on for awhile more and walked to the main road to get a cab. I held her hands, and she held mine tight.

Now, this girl has told our classmates that she is lesbian. I've asked her in class, if she was just bi or totally lesbian. She said she's the latter. Well, i was surprised at first, then i just decided to turn this lesbian straight. :up:

The next day, she never went for class, although she told me she would. I texted her once to ask her what time she'll be reaching school. No reply. Later in the evening that day, i called her once, no reply. :down: The next time we will see each other in class is like 3 days' later.

She hasn't replied me for 36 hours already.

What do you guys think is the problem here?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This goes on till' past midnight
Was she giving you the chance here?

I held her hands, and she held mine tight.
Sign that she trusts you,,and feels you can protect her.

So at the end,,just like you,,I have no idea! Doesn't look like you did anything wrong. Seems like in fact u did everything right (except the part where u fell for the lesbian girl)

She DID let you kiss her,,so... [blah blah the first kiss blah blah don't screw up blah blah] I'm just as lost as you are with this story,,champ.
 

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Well, she's a lesbian.

And you're a guy.

She didn't kiss you back, and told you yous aren't together.. I'd say she just didn't know how to let you down at the time.
 

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Umm all you got was a kiss that was not reciprocated and your subject line is "turned a lesbian straight"? Dream on. Once you've had sex with her report back and maybe you can say that.
 

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If she is full on Lesbian your in for some weird times if this comes to fruition in any way. However I have to agree with TheBucketOfTruth on this one.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ItsTheAttitude said:
The point is what is going through her head right now, and whether she'll hit me a reply.
"Gee, his sister is totally HOT! I wonder if he'll introduce me?"
 

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Yeah it's a he. I think she's just insecure with men.

Well, guess she won't contact me til' we see each other in school on monday. I'm anticipating a cold shoulder, IF she turns up. I'm cool both ways, just curious.

I got a date on monday night with another plate, so we'll see how it goes.
 

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She's probably bi and just thinks it's cool to label herself as a lesbian in a college setting. Regardless, until you score with her you haven't proven anything. It sounds to me like she's still not interested in guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Da Realist said:
Why did you kiss her cheek first? If she's not using that mouth, nothing is happening.
For no apparent reason, I was smelling her hair, so I moved on to the cheek.

Lol, I can't wait for Monday and gauge her response. She's probably gonna ignore me and pretend it never happened. :D
 
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