"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tunnel vission and should i ask for her number again

gimmeyofonenumba

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I have this problem, whenever im trying to work on a girl. I will not really feel the ambition to pursue other chicks, but sometimes will. I need some help with this. Its like i start daydreaming or something...ya i know its below AFC. Anyways, Ive began building rappoort with this one chick, and i recently got her phone number, indirectly, as us and a few other classm8s had a study session. My main question is, should i ask for her number again? as it is more of a direct invitation to call her. I make her laugh pretty easily, as she is really outgoing. I tried kino one time(still not used to it so soon) and she didnt really respond, just ignored. Anyways, I've been trying to raise her interest, by kinda ignoring her, for example we were walking to her car, and i pretended she wasnt their and started talkin to my m8(is this a method for attention-*****s). Anyways, the other day we were leaving class. I have another class afterwards, and i asked her to drive me to the other side of the campus for my next class. She did, but thats one of my problems, i can talk to any chick anywhere as long as we are doing the same thing school/work/in line. But just cant build up the confidence to ask them out. I think im just afraid of the rejection. Just lookin for some mentoring with her, and with my problems. I ended up not asking her anywhere, because i kinda get this vibe like she is too busy, and doesnt have time for anything. Maybe i'll ask her for some tea or something next time we meet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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chili kat

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That's not so horrible.

Personally, I look at the whole rejection feeling as a healthy male instinct. Women, it seems, are almost always more inclined to daydream about possibilities in romance. They come out of it wanting this in a man and that in a man. And in many cases, it goes just slightly beyond the realism of what almost most men really are.

You know, it's almost like women are programmed to conjure up an image that can't be had, and make you (us) feel bad when they don't get it.

Just don't worry about it.

That uncomfortable feeling is just guilt of not being able to do what most men can't (or just wont) do.

It's just not something you need to worry about. Women who reject so readily will end up on internet personals long after they have lost the figure, lust and persona .... and demand a prince.

Roll through it.
 

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If the risk isn't rejection. The goal isn't a relationship.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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